awful sex

(9 Posts)
Smartieskid Sat 12-Sep-15 13:05:13

Sorry for the appalling English writing this in a rush and severly dyslexic Been dating this guy for over a month didnt kiss till around are fourth date thought he was just being gentlemanly slept in the same bed a couple of times would of though somthing would of happened by now he wouldn't even grab my arse or touch me any where on Sunday I decided to make sex happen and turns out he was a virgin I'm guessing and I ended up doing all the work tried him on top but it was awful he didn't even no what to do with anything it was like sleeping with a log do you think things will get better or will I have to just learn to live with having to take control

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scatterthenuns Sat 12-Sep-15 13:06:56

How old are you both?

Smartieskid Sat 12-Sep-15 13:40:03

22 and 22

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Smartieskid Sat 12-Sep-15 13:41:15

I'm just used to the guy making moves and taking control and I won't touch me any where I gues he's just nervous like when he accidentally touched my boob he apologised

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EngTech Sat 12-Sep-15 16:57:34

Take control of the situation and show him what pleases you - Only so much you can get out of a book and "hands on", no pun intended, makes a world of differance

OddlyLogical Sun 13-Sep-15 00:03:30

Teach him! He might be a fast learner. If he was a virgin, how on earth was he supposed to know what to do? It could be worse - he could have had lessons from porn.

Smartieskid Sun 13-Sep-15 14:22:29

Thanks for all your help I'm giving him the chance will show him what I like and what to if he's okay with that I just find it hard when your in your sexy underwear or naked and he won't even make a move but we can work on that

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pocketsaviour Sun 13-Sep-15 14:56:56

If you're willing to put in the work to teach him what to do, then do it. Kindly, gently, respectfully.

If you're not that into him anyway then just bin him off now.

mrstweefromtweesville Sun 20-Sep-15 12:14:09

Check with him that this is what he wants!

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