Has anyone ever been to one of those organised adult sex parties?

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LaBette001 Wed 29-Jul-15 19:06:30

If so - was it ok?
I'm kind of interested - but worried that it might feel less fun and more seedy? Is it full of prostitutes and pervs or full of average couples interested in experimenting?
Is it ok to just observe or is full sex expected? What happens?

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LaBette001 Wed 29-Jul-15 19:08:22

Oh yeah - and what do people wear?!?!?

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Dadof2wo Wed 29-Jul-15 21:24:45

Do you mean a swingers party?
I have no experience but know people who have. They dont always take part if they dont feel like it or pretty much dont find anyone attractive.

WallyBantersJunkBox Wed 29-Jul-15 21:30:44

Do you mean like Killing Kittens?

SylvanianCaliphate Wed 29-Jul-15 21:35:01

There is a sex club in Sheffield called la Chambre that caters for couples.

I've never been but I'm assured by the chip shop man it's great hmm

Frostycake Wed 29-Jul-15 21:57:09

I know a manwho takes each of his girlfriends to one in London. Dont think they ever join in, they just wander from room to room watching. Wear whatever you like. Friend has a fetching line in pinstripe and leather suits. No idea if that's a thing or not.

LaBette001 Wed 29-Jul-15 22:25:42

Yes Killing Kittens is the one I read about, I'd forgotten the name.

But seriously do people just turn up in their best outfits or is a more, ahem, dramatic look required?

Seriously has no one else ever considered going to one and had similar questions?! Am I so odd ? grin

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LaBette001 Wed 29-Jul-15 22:26:42

Frosty - the very fact that he takes each of his girlfriends to one sounds like cause for concern!

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StickyMessi Wed 29-Jul-15 22:38:27

Are the school holidays still on

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 30-Jul-15 00:06:25

Can't message here unless you're a regular sticki.

Generally a free space to ask about any sexual question without fear of judgement and reprisal. Unless you want to do some rimming of course.

Yes I've been to an organised party. You are free to do as much or as little as you like.

paintedfences Thu 30-Jul-15 00:16:11

Friend has a fetching line in pinstripe and leather suits.

Hah - I think I've met him!

LaBette001 Thu 30-Jul-15 07:06:41

Thanks Wally - was is a good experience in your view?

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WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 30-Jul-15 08:15:18

For me no. But it wasn't killing kittens and was a private party I was invited to.

All was going well, guys were polite, watching me with a woman, stroking affectionate etc. I was giving her oral and a guy came up behind me and just point blank tried to penetrate me anally unprotected and uninvited.

He pretended not to understand and was asked to leave. Got quite nasty.

The other guys were lovely but it really shook me up.

Hopefully those parties are a little better policed. I think they are more female centric too.

LaBette001 Thu 30-Jul-15 08:21:51

Bloody hell..... flowers that's awful.

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PollyIndia Thu 30-Jul-15 11:28:37

No, but I went to Oxford and they used to have a sex party there once a year, although it was most raunchy in my first year. You'd get bussed in S&M gear out to some barn in a cotswold village, dance until dawn with people shagging around you. Actually it was a lot of fun especially for a naive comprehensive girl from a small town in wales.

PollyIndia Thu 30-Jul-15 11:28:54

WallyBanters, that is awful

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 30-Jul-15 12:15:25

Polly I'm also a naive working class Welsh girl grin

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 30-Jul-15 12:15:46

Not so naive anymore shock

Frostycake Thu 30-Jul-15 18:11:19

PaintedFences Does his name begin with 'M' and his nickname begins with B? If so, you have my sympathy grin

paintedfences Thu 30-Jul-15 20:26:22

Frostycake Ah it was about 5 years ago at this utterly HORRENDOUS massive kink night in London - he was a nice guy, we chatted for ages about this and that but mostly about how he'd decided to dress vintage style (avec Panama hat) all the time and how his small town he grew up in gave him the side-eye every time he went home. Think he ws early/mid thirties, good looking with brown hair and tall, but could have been anyone really!

paintedfences Thu 30-Jul-15 20:28:39

To answer OP, the above horrendous thing was a huge event in central london and was bad. sad You were allowed to have full sex etc and it was just creepy and I didn't like it, coming from just attending small, well-run kinky events where only spanking etc was allowed.

I've heard good things about Torture Garden in London, if you fancy a kinky night out?

HelenaDove Fri 31-Jul-15 00:02:38

From what ive read about Killing Kittens its only "beautiful and rich people" allowed. hmm

WallyBantersJunkBox Fri 31-Jul-15 06:27:07

Not rich, professional or interesting, Helena.

LaBette001 Fri 31-Jul-15 07:55:23

That's one of the things that worries me. If it is just beautiful and rich people (and we were allowed through the door) it would be crap to be the ugliest ones there... Or on the flip side it's really an event for old pervs trying to get lucky.

Would just love to find a safe space to very tentatively explore our sexuality as a couple without feeling pressurised into anything .... Sounds like these events are not quite the right forum

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LaBette001 Fri 31-Jul-15 07:56:06

Torture Garden could be good though - thanks!

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