Have NC
I'm basically gagging for sex, I daydream about it, I'm constantly horny, I get myself off daily and I'm this close to finding someone who will have sex with me!!!
It basically started a few years ago now. I have been with partner for 3 and a half years, first year lots of sex and while it was very much just stick it in and go for it I was able to enjoy it and orgasm even though I missed oral and foreplay immensely I was happy with regular sex.
Second year things took a turn for the worst bf was drinking to much and we hardly had sex as be has either drunk, hungover, tired etc and when we did have sex it was just drunken stick it in and neither of us actually came, or he would have to stop all the time "saying he needed to pee" etc and we had a huge chat about all this and he promised to make more effort etc....... Within 4 week of that chat I found myself pregnant and that's when things really got bad, he found the whole pregnancy off putting and wouldn't have sex at all, after baby was born we had a couple of failed attempts and he couldn't get hard and all this along with him upping his drinking resulted in a lot of issue in our relationship and we even spilt for a month, after a lot of talking we got back together and agreed things needed sorting not just sex but intimacy as well as since I got pregnant all kisses/cuddles anything stopped.
So we got back together on the agreement that intimacy and sex would be delt with, no pressure just make sure we made time to kiss/cuddle etc and sadly within a week if that he had a issue with his health that turned out to be nothing but that triggered his anxiety and panic attacks (this was 5 months ago) and all efforts of sex/intimacy has gone out the window.
Now I have been as supportive as I can, put no pressure on him, he knows I have been missing sex desperately but he just doesn't seem willing to try and get back on track with that or anything else.
He is now on anti depressants but He uses drink to deal with his anxiety, all promises that he is stopping drinking for a few months and getting himself down gym again etc and get physically and mentally healthy again are forgotten and go out the window with 4 days and we just find ourself making no progress.
I'm honestly at my wits end, I know of two other men who are interested and have offered dates and I'm honestly so tempted to take these offers up, I lay in bed and think about dates/sex with these people.
How do I fix all this
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Gaggingforitnow · 27/07/2015 18:51
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