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Out of practice in the bedroom and I need help!(19 Posts)
MNers I've got a bloody gorgeous man coming round and staying in my bed on Thursday and I'm excited but so nervous too!
I've barely had sex in the past two years and based on what I've read on here recently it's all been very vanilla (but good!) so I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing, I feel a bit embarrassed.
I want to give him a blowjob, I don't know why as it's not something I usually want I just really do with this man, thinking about it is driving me up the wall in a good way! However, I haven't done it in over two years and I remember finding it difficult to find a comfortable position. I think laying at the side worked best.
What's the easiest position? I like the idea of laying between his legs and doing it but I remember struggling to find a good angle with it in my mouth?!
Any advice would be welcome! I wish I could practice beforehand so I know I won't make a fool of myself fumbling about
Just relax and let yourself go ( and enjoy ), I find it easier to give a be when they are sat up a bit or even stood up. You can practice, use a banana . I always remember reading in a magazine about bj's when I was a teen ( remember 'more' magazine ) and it said to treat a cock like a lolly pop, I always remember this tip when I go down on a man and it seems to work a treat.
Have fun and don't feel embarrassed, try and ask him 'what he likes' and tell him what you like done to you but also try new things too.
Men like to watch you doing it and see you are enjoying it.
Have a look on YouTube - lots of helpful videos on there! Good luck!
I wouldn't worry about it. He'll be so happy you're making the effort to please him that he won't care what position you're in. In that respect blowjobs are like pizza's - no such thing as a bad one.
Don't let him short change you, though. You don't want to get landed with a selfish lover.
Radical has hit the nail on the head here - he'll be delighted that you are making the effort, and as Radical also says, make sure it's reciprocated.
But above all, stop over thinking about things, relax and have fun. And talk. And show him what works for you, ask him what works for him. And talk. And laugh with each other. Have fun.
Best not to make too many detailed plans, he might not like receiving oral.
An older work colleague once said to me, never suck a man's cock, otherwise he won't want anything else, ever. Wise words...
Really and truly?
You want Mumsnetters to give you descriptions of how to give a good blow job?
An older work colleague once said to me, never suck a man's cock, otherwise he won't want anything else, ever. Perhaps your older work colleague was a selfish lover, but not all men are that selfish in bed.
Thank you for your responses! I'll be nervous no matter what but a few drinks with help us both, I expect he will be a bit nervous too!
It's been ages so it's exciting! Sex hasn't crossed my mind for a long time and now it's all I can think about
Mintyy - I don't want a description of how to do it, I was hoping for help with a comfortable position to do it so I'm not fumbling about getting embarrassed when I'm in a bad position. I'd say those are two different things!
I enjoy an impromptu one on the sofa...partner relaxed and comfortable, me kneeling between his legs (these days with a cushion under my creaky knees ).
Then I don't get a stiff neck or dead arms. You can then press down on the thighs if he becomes a bit excitable.
I also get to enjoy the view....rippling stomach muscles, head thrown back, stubbly square jaw, Adam's apple.....big hands caressing my face and hair....
<<wanders off in bliss>>
I prefer to kneel next to my partner if both lying on the bed, or get him to sit on the edge of the bed and proceed as per Wally's post!
If you're worried about gagging, wrap one fist around the base so you can control the movement.
Wow, so at least one poster actually believes it's wise to never suck a mans cock....
Seriously, can MN imagine the furore if a bloke had said, ''you should never lick a girls fanny, it'll be all they ever want....''
Kneeling between his legs with him sitting n the sofa is quite comfortable.
In bed, it depends on my mood. I'm generally more comfortable between his legs but sometimes I prefer being on my side. If you turn round when you are on your side, it gives him something to do with his hands and it's easy to switch to 69.
Thank you for the tips they're much appreciated! I've realised it may not even be an option because about a month ago I started grinding my teeth and my jaw doesn't open fully
I've been doing jaw exercises to make it better as it gives me a migraine but I can't decide if it's wide enough, I'm thinking not! I'm not entirely sure how wide it used to be anyway!
You've got a tongue!
Stop fretting. Relax you'll have a great time.
There's no such thing I'm sure as the perfect BJ. Every guy is different.
But I'm sure in their heads enthusiasm and enjoyment is 90% of the experience.
Just bear in mind that not all men like BJs, it never occurred to me that could be the case until I started internet dating and then I had two boyfriends in a row who didn't like Bj's, one who felt too panicky about it to enjoy it and the other because it brought back flashbacks of sexual abuse he had experienced.
Now I'm with someone who told me he had never had an orgasm via a BJ because it takes him too long (related to a botched vasectomy) and nobody could be bothered so we messed around with it a bit and got that sorted out for him! It does take bloody ages and I had lockjaw a few years ago so my mouth doesn't open as wide as it used to, but it is still good enough for that so I'm sure you will be fine!
Remember you can get stis from oral.