gagging during oral.

(29 Posts)
DoTheDuckFace Fri 17-Jul-15 23:36:12

If you gag during oral sex does that mean you have been deep throating or can you gag during an ordinary blow job?

My ex always used to bang on about deep throat and how he wished I could do it. Unfortunately for him I have a small mouth and he has a big penis so it wasn't happening.
Since we split we have slept together a few times. Neither of us are seeing anyone else and we both have 'needs'. Anyway when I give him oral now he is much more enthusiastic about joining in to the point where I gag and my eyes water.
I don't mind , he will stop if I tap out and I like being dominated and feeling 'helpless' and naughty, it is a turn on for me. I just wondered if this is the deep throat he was always so keen to try?

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changedmyname12345 Sat 18-Jul-15 00:22:39

Not sure what to say!!

ThereIsIron Sat 18-Jul-15 00:26:14

That's deep throat alright. Just get yourself a bigger mouth if it bothers you. Some girls like to boke on the cock.

Chancewouldbefinething Sat 18-Jul-15 00:28:37

Eewwww confused

DoTheDuckFace Sat 18-Jul-15 00:34:38

Thanks Iron I will pop along to asda for a larger gob.
I domains the gagging to be honest, it's not like I am actually going to be sick, just my throat closes up a bit.

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DoTheDuckFace Sat 18-Jul-15 00:35:07

Sorry don't mind not domains. I can't type on this phone.

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gamerchick Sat 18-Jul-15 00:39:58

If you don't mind the gagging then you don't have a problem.

There's a technique to deep throat, i always thought I too much hard work when reading it.


DoTheDuckFace Sat 18-Jul-15 00:47:49

I just didn't know if this was actually 'it'. I haven't ever watched a Deep throat porn film so have no idea what it actually was or if that was what we were doing.

These is very little work involved here. Pop my hair in a pony and open my mouth haha. He seems to enjoy taking care of the rest.

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violetwellies Sat 18-Jul-15 00:51:41


Butterflywings168 Sat 18-Jul-15 01:04:29

My exP was grateful for oral at all, wouldn't have dreamed of 'joining in' I would have bitten it off if he did

missqwerty Sat 18-Jul-15 08:36:58

It sounds like your desperate to Impress him for the wrong reasons.

You can gag with oral regardless of deep throat. You can deep throat and not gag. I can do it but after a bit I start to gag, tbh it's not all that just a fantasy for men induced by porn really, bit like anal sex.

SylvanianCaliphate Sat 18-Jul-15 08:42:42

I gagged reading this.

It's just another wanky porn image, even in the deep throat films the whole point was she didn't gag!

In my humble opinion a man who enjoys looking down on a woman while he pushes his cock in her mouth with enough force to cause her to gag and tears to come is one to avoid.

A bit like Ebola.

Far too close to a rape image in my mind.

LTB and get someone who doesn't enjoy humiliating you.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Sat 18-Jul-15 08:50:50

If you enjoy it do it. If not don't. But I'd say his "over enthusiasm" may be connected with trying to punish you for breaking up.
But still hmm

pocketsaviour Sat 18-Jul-15 09:44:32

If you're enjoying it, then good for you. I don't mind a bit of gagging during an enthusiastic blowjob, as long as you trust your partner to stop if you signal (as you said your fella does.)

If his cock hits the back of your throat, you're going to gag. The only times I've been able to get a cock past my gag reflex bit is if the guy stays still and I control the movement (so it doesn't hit the bit that triggers the gag. I don't know what it's called.)

CurlyhairedAssassin Sat 18-Jul-15 09:48:03

Well, that image has spoilt my breakfast.

gymboywalton Sat 18-Jul-15 09:50:43

is there a way of hiding a topic?

Foreverconfused Sat 18-Jul-15 09:52:46

Apparently those throat sprays that numb your throat help with the gagging , but seems too much hassle tbh , and not entirely sure it's safe.
I find me being in control helps ,as I can warm up which means more deepthroat and less gagging for partner.

DoctorTwo Sat 18-Jul-15 10:29:55

In my humble opinion a man who enjoys looking down on a woman while he pushes his cock in her mouth with enough force to cause her to gag and tears to come is one to avoid.


happygirl87 Sat 18-Jul-15 11:39:07

Gagging and deep throating are totally separate. I sometimes gag at the dentist.

Toohotcats Sat 18-Jul-15 11:48:40

I also posted a thread on this topic recently.
Just wanted to add that I tried one of those throat numbing sprays a while ago, and my entire throat swelled up the next day - and I only used a tiny amount. So I dread to think what could've happened to me if I'd used a lot.. As a rule I'd say don't trust anything without an ingredients list on it.
Also, if your throat is numb and you're forcing something down it you're not aware of the damage you could be causing.
Like others have said its something that can only be done (without gagging) if you're comfortable and it's entirely you in control. And I'd like to thank Porn for making me feel like it's something I should be doing. When in fact it's an entirely unnatural thing to do

DoTheDuckFace Sat 18-Jul-15 14:25:50

Wow thanks for all the replies, seemed like a good idea to post last night after a few wines, bit embarrassing to come back to today.

Miss qwerty I am definitely not desperate to impress him. If anything he has got rougher in all aspects since we split up to impress me. He would never be rough whilst we were together despite me actually liking it. This seems to have stemmed from there and he is finding he likes it too I guess.

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differentnameforthis Sat 18-Jul-15 15:25:00

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pocketsaviour Sat 18-Jul-15 15:56:17

Curly I'm really wondering why you went to the Sex topic, then opened a thread called "Gagging during oral" while eating your breakfast...

DoTheDuckFace Sat 18-Jul-15 16:32:30

I wondered the same pocket

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UnsolvedMystery Sat 18-Jul-15 17:08:53

Gagging and deep throat are two completely different things.
Deep throat involves being able to open your throat up in the same way that sword swallowers do, so that you DON'T gag and are able to take his entire penis.
Gagging is the natural reflex reaction you body does to protect you from choking.
Don't ever use numbing sprays - you won't be aware of any damage you are doing.
I hate gagging - never understood what a man would get out of it to be honest and on the odd occasion when I have accidentally gone too deep, I end up with eyes watering, coughing and spluttering - all very off-putting!!

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