I'm not sure if this is a silly question or not...

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MonkeyOnTheCar Thu 09-Jul-15 11:10:50

but I have only ever slept with my husband, he has only ever slept with me. 100% sure on this, he's never even KISSED anyone else. I have been starting a relationship with a female friend (with DHs permission) and I just wanted to ask if I should get an STI check before anything sexual happens? Or is it not needed in my situation? I'd like to be able to tell her conclusively there are no issues.

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HomeHelpMeGawd Thu 09-Jul-15 13:16:02

If you have sufficient trust, you don't need an STI check under those circs. However, your female friend might, depending on her history...

Your love life sounds very intriguing!

MonkeyOnTheCar Thu 09-Jul-15 13:55:28

Thankyou. I didn't think I did but best to ask.

It's really not been upto now. I've been with him and monogamous for many, many years!

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HomeHelpMeGawd Thu 09-Jul-15 14:29:41

I think what's intruiging is precisely that it's a big step away from where you've been thus far! I hope it goes really well for all of you

GinUpGirl Thu 09-Jul-15 14:31:28

I don't think you need an STI test either? Good luck with your arrangement, I hope everyone involved stays happy.

MonkeyOnTheCar Thu 09-Jul-15 15:09:28

I've always been very drawn to women and openly class myself as bisexuality but never met anyone that I would feel comfortable taking the next step with, before now.
It's all very new and tentative but DH is very understanding of it and I just wanted to be prepared with answers if the situation arose.

Thanks for the replies!

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MonkeyOnTheCar Thu 09-Jul-15 15:10:53

Sorry bisexual* (autocorrect )

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WingsofNylon Thu 09-Jul-15 23:41:35

I think it is only fair to her that you get a test anyway. You might trust dh but it os unfair for you to take his word gor it.

velourvoyageur Fri 10-Jul-15 11:49:41

Do people get STD tests before they sleep with new people. What if it's not planned?

have a fab time OP, I doubt you need to bother with the test but if it makes you feel at all better about things then get it done, not a silly thing to do.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Fri 10-Jul-15 11:51:29

velour I would always get one before unprotected sex with someone new.

gatewalker Fri 10-Jul-15 11:58:22

Actually, I would do a test - just out of principle.

All the best for your new adventures!

Revolutionary Fri 10-Jul-15 12:34:57

I'd get a test. I've had several this year. Its not embarassing and its only fair.

PoppyBlossom Fri 10-Jul-15 12:37:34

Yep velour, if your active sexually then you should have tests. It's good to get them done just as a general mot.

MonkeyOnTheCar Sat 11-Jul-15 18:45:20

Thanks for the replies. We talked and are both getting tested for peace of mind for all involved.

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