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Walking to and from school in yrs 7 and 10

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bambicat Thu 03-Oct-13 11:54:11

Help and advice needed to resolve a parenting conflict!
Is it better to let 2 brothers walk half a mile to and from school, weather and health permitting, or should they be driven by car? Many thanks.

exexpat Thu 03-Oct-13 11:56:28

Half a mile? They should walk! Why are you even asking? (Unless the half mile involves crossing a six-lane motorway or something silly).

DS has been walking the mile to school by himself since the second day of year 7; DD is year 6 and already walks more than half a mile to or from school by herself some days.

ZiaMaria Thu 03-Oct-13 11:56:56

Assuming they are mature enough, they should walk. At age 11 and 14(ish?) they are old enough to be able to manage half a mile alone.

motherinferior Thu 03-Oct-13 12:01:46

My 10 year old walks that distance to school every day on her own. Her 12 year old sister would die of shame if I even suggested driving her.

bambicat Thu 03-Oct-13 12:03:15

Thankyou smile Mum and Dad have very conflicting opinions on this and could really use some honest 3rd party common sense.

I can't think of any weather they couldn't walk in that wouldn't be more dangerous in a car tbh. Mine walk further than that and have done since yr 7 (still have to do primary school, school run so secondary aged DC have to fend for themselves!)

motherinferior Thu 03-Oct-13 12:04:42

Which parent is bonkers enough to think they should be driven?

TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 03-Oct-13 12:04:59

Half a mile? At 11 and 14?

Is there a reason why you think they shouldn't be walking to school?
My ds2 is 10 and he cycles further than that to school.
Ds1 and dd have a 10 minute walk, a 15 minute train journey and then a 15 minute walk to school, they have been doing that since year 7

I think they would be horrified at the thought of me taking them and picking them up every day.

meditrina Thu 03-Oct-13 12:05:00

I think secondary pupils can (and should) make their own way to and from school unless there is an overwhelming reason why not. Walking half a mile, assuming adequate pavements, should be easily doable.

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TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 03-Oct-13 12:05:51

And when you say "weather permitting" what weather could stop them from walking?

5madthings Thu 03-Oct-13 12:06:10

Of course they should walk!

Ds1 is in yr 10 and ds2 is in yr 7 and they get the bus but walk partway and both walked further than that at primary.

My ds3 and ds4 both walk further than that to get to primary, ds3 is in yr4 and will occasionally walk home on his own now.

curlew Thu 03-Oct-13 12:06:13

What is the reason for not wanting them to walk?

motherinferior Thu 03-Oct-13 12:07:33

Possibly if there was an actual tornado. But then you wouldn't be driving either.

Or if they had a leg in plaster.

MaddAddam Thu 03-Oct-13 12:09:23

Is this a joke? My secondary dc cycle or walk 1.5 miles every day, whatever the weather, I consider that a short commute to school. and the primary one walks 1/2 mile every day, again even in the most torrential rain. I wouldn't dream of driving them. But then I cycle 3x that to work whatever the weather and we're not big fans of car use for teeny trips.

curlew Thu 03-Oct-13 12:09:33

Or, to be fair, an enormous cardboard model of a motte and bailey castle to carry......

Preciousbane Thu 03-Oct-13 12:16:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

titchy Thu 03-Oct-13 12:19:47

Who in their right mind would even question this - it's a 15 minute walk tops, and they are bloody lucky to have a secondary school so near.

Dear God I wonder about folk sometimes I really do.

bambicat Thu 03-Oct-13 12:20:39

I'm very grateful for the replies smile Mum and Dad are divorced and this became a cause of very upsetting and angry conflict last night, in front of the boys. I'm hoping this thread will help ease some kind of agreement or compromise.

curlew Thu 03-Oct-13 12:22:21

Why did whoever thought they shouldn't walk think that?

bambicat Thu 03-Oct-13 12:30:15

Mum thinks it's too far to walk and they shouldn't have to... Dad thinks the distance is fine...

TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 03-Oct-13 12:33:09

in my opinion its perfectly fine. A 14 year old should be able to get themselves half a mile down the road, whatever the weather.

Have they never gone to school alone then?

redskyatnight Thu 03-Oct-13 12:33:20

Half a mile!!
Are the DC not mortified at the idea of being driven?

exexpat Thu 03-Oct-13 12:33:23

What do the boys think? Surely most of their friends would be walking from at least that distance - my DS would be mortified if I drove him to school every day.

I have even offered to take him/pick him up sometimes when it has been tipping with rain and he has had a sports bag and guitar as well as normal backpack to carry, and he has still refused...

impecuniousmarmoset Thu 03-Oct-13 12:34:18

My 5-year-old walks further than that most afternoons! Quite often, so does my 3-year-old. Wow - half a mile, too far to walk, for two teenagers?!

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