Hi there, I am sure there will be wildly differing opinions on this, which is partly why I've put it here!
Both my girls are home educated and very happy. Eldest is Y9 and youngest is Y6. Youngest being Y6, I feel we ought to at least give her the option of secondary school next year - she's very academic and although she's doing really well at home (as is my eldest who takes 4 GCSEs this summer in only Y9) a tiny part of me worries that sending her to a really good school would be doing her more favours. I could be wrong! She's not sure at all one way or the other, BTW.
My family reckon a good state school. They say top unis favour states nowadays, plus it's free and they know lots of happy, balanced individuals from the local state. But I think she will be eaten alive at a state secondary. She's pretty geeky in that she absolutely loves work, can't be stretched enough, loves adult company, is not at all streetwise or trendy in any way. She went to a state primary until she was 8 and it never suited her, she was a bad fit there from start to finish and stood out like a sore thumb. They couldn't cope with her either socially or academically and she was miserable. I have a different child now to the one I had 2 years ago, she's just so happy now. It's not just the school because my eldest was quite happy there.
If anyone has a very academic/ boffiny child at a state secondary, I'd like your thoughts, good or bad.
Second option is a private school. She would have to get a scholarship ( we couldn't even pay a tenth of the fees), but looking at the entrance exam one school sent us, I think she will have a fair chance. She is way above the maths level and I think the English should be OK. The verbal/ non verbal reasoning she's naturally good at. The interview, well she will talk to adults until the cows come home, so I think we'd be in with a chance, at least. Having said that, many scholarships are for children in state schools which is a bit of a teeth gnash for me because we are only home educating because it was home or state (we're quite a low income) and state couldn't cope with her. Plus the schools seem to want like a £50 registration fee which I think will exclude half the people who would benefit from a scholarship!
Does anyone know if we had a scholarship if that would tie us into the school for a long time? I'm worried what I would do if I sent her and she hated it.
Also, I just don't know if she would be happier in a private than she was in state. Is there less bullying? Is it more acceptable to be very bright? Would she really have lots more opportunities there?
I'm looking round all sorts of schools in the next few weeks but I would really welcome opinions as I have no idea what we should do.
Sorry if this is a bit jumbled!
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musicposy · 20/09/2009 21:26
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