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HeyaAll Mon 04-May-20 17:01:30

So, me and my DH were discussing the pros and cons of boarding schools - just conversationally really; and he sent me out on a quest of a feedback on the issue from teachers (presumably at normal schools) who made the decision of sending THEIR kids to boarding. (I guess he wants to hear from ''normal'' people within the field on whether and why they made such choice)
What made them choose so? What do they think about the experience? Are they happy with their choice? Why? Any input would be much appreciated. Know someone who is in this position? Please spill all the beans, Thank you Thank you x

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titchy Mon 04-May-20 17:32:36

Or you could write the article yourself?

Malbecfan Tue 05-May-20 17:14:41

How many teachers can afford to send their kids to a boarding school?

I can't. I couldn't afford to send them to a private school either. Luckily they went to a brilliant state one that achieves better than the local private schools. DD1 is now at Cambridge. They class her as from a low-income background. We earn less than a year's boarding fees.

Tableclothing Tue 05-May-20 17:18:55

Average uk teacher salary - 38k.
Typical boarding school fees - 30k, plus extras.

sw199999 Tue 05-May-20 18:02:37

I know a couple with children at boarding schools and loads with children at private schools - all married to higher earners- but I doubt any of them would want to be in a magazine article or similar!

houselikeashed Wed 06-May-20 18:24:46

why teachers?

HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:14:09

Hello everyone! I didnt get any memos I got replies!! Sorry for the delay!! 😱 Thank you for replying.!

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:16:14

No this isnt for any article lol, its honestly been a conversation in my house. My hubbies mum used to be a teacher and is no longer around, I guess he wants to know what a teacher would think about sending kids off to private school - when they are capable to teach them well at home, for example. OR push them furthef than a state school would - again at home. 😊

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:19:56

I was watching documentaries about boarding schools and the level of achievement and independence they foster, and I do think there are major advantages to it. (I would have loved it as a teen tbh!) But then there is this whole 'wanting to have kiddies at home' as I do love them dearly smile Hubbie seems to think that only a teacher who has made such decision (as to send them away) has the necessary credentials grin so yeah, if you have any pros or cons; or thoughts; or opinions, do let me know, please, so I am debate-ready wink

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:20:37

Hi, I explained in the thread just now. smile

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:25:15

@Malbecfan yes, I do think it is possible to educate well, even outside these institutions. Congrats on your job well done with the schooling! Nice smile

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Theyweretheworstoftimes Thu 14-May-20 14:27:43

My mum was a teacher, I went to boarding school.

What is it you want to know specifically?

HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:48:34

Hope your nickname doesnt represent how you liked it??? shock
Thank you so much for taking the time. So, I guess first I must ask: Why did your mum decide to have you at boarding school despite the fact she technically could've given you top-notch learning experience at home? Do you know what hef thought process on that was?

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Theyweretheworstoftimes Thu 14-May-20 14:52:32

My username is about my pregnancy! 🤣🤣🤣

I chose to go and applied for a scholarship behind her back and got one.

So then it was a discussion as to why did I want this and was it the right thing for me.

She worked full time and my dad worked abroad, I wanted more time with friends and less stress on her.

HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:54:39

Second would be: How did you feel about it? Was it a positive experience? Do you feel it helped you in later life? daffodil

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:56:07

Just saw your reply! Aaaaw bless, sorry to hear its the worst for you! sad how far along are you? Congrats nevertheless smile

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 14:58:10

Wow, I love what you wrote - that what I wanted also when young, but my parents would have none of it.! Did you like it? And do you feep it affected your relationship with your momma in a bad way? Like you were distant to her, or she was not present for you etc. I guess thats always the biggest worry. confused

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Theyweretheworstoftimes Thu 14-May-20 15:07:49

It made us all much much closer. We had quality time.

It made me independent, resilient, confident.

It was the best decision for all of us.

My baby was born in 2018 but I kept my user name as the pregnancy was so bad!

HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 15:13:42

Ok, ok, got it! Well congrats on your little one still 😊

Love it! That's precisely what I was thinking. And your mum? Did she struggle with the idea initially but came around? Or was she up for it?
Also, if I may ask - how old were you when you enrolled?
Btw, thanks so much for all this info! smile

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Devlesko Thu 14-May-20 15:28:25

Why do journos do this.
Make up a stupid story about their pretend family.

Theyweretheworstoftimes Thu 14-May-20 15:28:45

I don't really know how she felt, I know she missed me when I went away but enjoyed getting her own life back a bit more.

The success of it depends on the child, the school and the parent. It's a bit of a matching process, get the right kid at the right school and it works.

Different strokes for different folks

HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 15:31:27

@Devlesko Sorry love, but you actually made me lol here. Im literally asking for myself for the reasons I fully explained. I mean, why would I lie? Wow.

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HeyaAll Thu 14-May-20 15:33:39

I feel you. I honestly kinda love the idea tbh... I guess also super telling thing to ask is: with the experience you had, if you were a SAHM, would you still opt for boarding for your booba? 👀

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movealongnothingheretogawpat Thu 14-May-20 15:35:19

I am a teachers daughter , I went to boarding school and I enjoyed being academic however I hated school , to be fair it was ok but it was me being stuck there with loads of other kids that I hated , I'm someone who likes my own company too much , much better opportunities from my school than a state school so it was worth the effort

Goslowlysideways Thu 14-May-20 15:37:55

Teachers with children at boarding school seems really niche. If there is such a thing where are they working and can I get a job there?!

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