Hi, I am hoping I can get some perspective and some helpful hints on supporting my 12 years old with school tests. I have just read this and apologise for it's length!
School work isn't going to come easy for her, she is very average but gets really good feedback from school about her attitude in class, her effort and that she is working hard.
At home, she does homework tasks e.g. answer these questions, research x,y,z, learn french vocab. She gets on quite well with this but there is more often than not a lot of complaining, procrastinating and shouting but in the end she does it. We are careful to reward effort not grades.
This weekend she has 2 tests to revise for. She is pushing back at every opportunity, she is not focussed, she is avoiding and it feels like she is making an arguement to stop her from actaully doing the work. One of the subjects she does find hard and she did a bit of work with her dad this morning but is now completely refusing to go over it because she did an hour this morning why should she do more. Yesterday she was given plenty opportunity to go over the work but faffed about and I have to admit I had to walk away, I was about to explode. I asked her directly if she felt she had done enough to pass her test and she, if so then that is fine. She threw everything on the floor and glared at me. I took that as she probably felt she needed to do more. So gave her 5 mins to decide what she wanted to do.
What is going on? Can hormones be the actual answer? I am at a loss now. I know I will probably have to let it go and she will have to deal with the end result. Is there anything else I can do? (for the avoidance of doubt, I have no expectation that she gets A* results, as long as she has tried I don't mind what she gets).
Thanks all!
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janie2 · 02/02/2020 15:02
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