DS2 has had a chat with me about a friendship group drama and I thought some of you might have wiser responses than I have...
DS2 is pretty popular at school, is in with the ‘in’ crowd. He’s quite good at sustaining friendships without being needy and he’s quite good at having boundaries etc.
He’s mentioned a couple of times that he’s becoming uncomfortable with the behaviour of one of the other boys in the group. This other boy (we will call him Cedric - apologies to any mothers of Cedrics) seems to create a lot of drama. He’s ‘fallen in love’ with one of the girls in the friendship group and is basically pestering her to death (she’s not interested). DS2 says he drops borderline racist and sexist memes into group chats that include girls and BAME kids - DS says he gets called out on this but that it just makes him ramp up his behaviour (they’ve now created a secret group chat for everyone except Cedric).
Basically, they feel a bit sorry for him (apparently his parents are a bit weird/unreasonable, according to him) and are also slightly being held hostage by the fact that he (Cedric) ramps up the unpleasant behaviour whenever he gets called on it. DS has already been told he’s a ‘white knight’ and a ‘feminist pussy’ (slightly troubling MRA language).
So far so meh, to be honest, but I said to DS today ‘why don’t you just tell him he’s being a jerk’ and it came out that after the last time DS pulled him up on something, Cedric worked on another group of Y10 boys at the school (not part of the same friendship group) and said something (DS doesn’t know what) that has made them all stop speaking to DS. DS asked one of the boys what he’d been told and got told to ‘die’ and ‘just shut up’ (he showed me the messages). DS has asked Cedric what Cedric said to these other boys and Cedric says he can’t remember and that they must have got the wrong end of the stick.
DS isn’t that bothered by all this, he says, but basically Cedric is really fucking annoying me now and I would quite like an evil genius method of getting him to piss off without causing massive fallout for DS.
(Cedric is currently sitting in my lounge along with some other friends of DS using my broadband and drinking my fizzy pop, so i’m posting partly to stop myself going down and asking him straight out what his problem is...)
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TresDesolee · 01/11/2019 17:46
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