Hi, First post so sorry if this is a poor effort.
DS1 preteen has some experience with bullying at school, nothing terrible, just name calling, thumping, tripping etc. When it got too much, I have complained - There have ALWAYS been repercussions from the instigators after they were told off - we've been through the loops (tell again, react again etc). Ended with DS1 getting tougher, sucking up/fighting back : never resolved by school. OK then not great but liveable.
DS1 now insists we do not report to the school because it's not worth it, he will stop telling us what is going on if we betray his trust on this. So we just listen and support, and tell him that if it ever gets too much we will pull him from school but we will respect his judgement as to how much he feels he can take.
His allergies are multiple and serious (Risk of anaphylaxis, epi pens, inhalers trips to A&E from school from Primary years)
So now : Big lad who's brand at school seems to be, he's in charge, if there is any thumping to be done - he'll be the one to do it. If anyone else tries to get in on the thumping action he'll sort them because that's his fun. Telling is highly punishable by him.
DS1 has taken a few slaps from him but then so has everyone else, so he doesn't feel that picked on. No bruises, just seems to be the big lads way of keeping folk in line.
So DS1 gets stuck next to big lad at lunch and his food is deliberately contaminated by big lad. There is no attempt to hide it from DS1 so no harm done apart from a missed lunch.
If I report it, I have no reason to believe that DS1 can be effectively protected and he will no longer trust me. I have read the Anti-Bullying policy and it sounds lovely, but real life experience at the school proves that theory and practice are not the same thing.
If this is driven undercover it is potentially life threatening. It only takes a single round of telling off/react and it could be game over – DS1 is on the frontline not me, if I could take that risk for him I would in a heartbeat.
WWYD? and has anyone any experience or know of Preteen/Teen Allergy support groups in the South East (or online nationwide) where he/I would be welcome. I have already tried a major online general allergy support groups and they were really nice but this area is not really part of what they do.
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jebthesheep · 26/09/2019 13:48
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