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Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 12:04:48

I have a child whos been allocated a school that he can't go to as a perpetrator who he has a restraining on 4 children go there and we've been through 18 months of hell and he won in court against the abuser. We only.picked 1 school as he said he felt safe to go there and would.enjoy.school.once again ... the education welfare dont seem to care his life would be at risk if he attends the school and i have appealed to all local.schools but getting no where, I will end up home schooling him but I have a 4 month old baby and 2 brain tumours and work 12 hour.night shifts and I'm.not sure I can even do it but my child will be in danger And had threatened his own life if he has to go to that school with those children.... can any one give me any advise????

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SD1978 Wed 10-Apr-19 12:27:16

How flexible are you regarding other schools in the area? Only putting down one choice was probably the mistake- are you on the waiting list there though? I'd approach the LEA regarding safety concerns, but they may not necessarily allocate you the school you want, but a different one, would you accept that?

titchy Wed 10-Apr-19 12:38:25

Did you preferred school have a critiera for exceptional circumstances? Did you apply under exceptional criteria? Did you provide evidence? Have you now formally applied and been rejected from all other schools nearby? Have you submitted appeal documentation to your preferred school? What about other schools in the area?

4strings Wed 10-Apr-19 12:50:03

Can you appeal? I know of someone who had similar circumstances and appealed. Albeit it was for primary school but they were successful.

MyDcAreMarvel Wed 10-Apr-19 12:53:46

The mistake was only picking one school. I would ring ss for their support.

Redlocks28 Wed 10-Apr-19 12:54:34

as a perpetrator who he has a restraining on 4 children

I don’t really get this-who has the restraining order? Against who? Who are the 4 children-is your child one of them?

Putting down only one school was probably a mistake. Have you been allocated your catchment school?

There is lots of movement in the first half term of secondary in my experience.

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:20:17

Yes I've put down all other schools and on a waiting list for all.schools I would drive miles just do he can go to a school and stay in education, he holds the restraining order against someone else....I've tried every avenue but educational welfare said it stands for.nothing even tho there are location restriction on the restraining order so.my.child cannot be approached .....I have provided evidence but they just don't seem to care, yes it was nieve of me.to only.put one school but it was the only.school sutible for.him and his choice. Finding i come up against brick walls each time i try n appeal

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PotteringAlong Wed 10-Apr-19 13:22:21

I don’t understand who has the restraining order and against whom? Is it the parent of a child at the new school?

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:23:41

Yes a parent of 4 children at the school

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Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:25:12

My child.holds the restraining order against someone else who has 4 children in the new school he's been allocated

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Tawdrylocalbrouhaha Wed 10-Apr-19 13:26:36

without wanting to be a bitch here, putting just one school down and then complaining the "they just don't seem to care" when all the other schools you could have put are full is not reasonable at all.

Keep hammering away and he will get something else, but it may be inconvenient or not ideal for him.

PotteringAlong Wed 10-Apr-19 13:28:03

Well, in theory then that’s the problem of the parent and as long as they’re not doing pick ups / drop offs I assume it wouldn’t legally break the restraining order?

Do you have a police liaison officer / social worker who might be able to help?

myrtleWilson Wed 10-Apr-19 13:28:40

Where are you on the waiting lists for the other schools?
Have you checked the reason you didn't get preferred school - distance etc
Have you submitted an appeal for your preferred school - when is this likely to be heard?

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:29:32

I know what u are saying but there was several reasons why only 1 school was requested, but yes I appreciate it was a bad choice but from the outset it was stated why he needed to be in a school that was requested

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ASauvignonADay Wed 10-Apr-19 13:45:44

Your post is quite unclear but can you appeal?

NorthEndGal Wed 10-Apr-19 13:49:27

So you put down one school, the one he wants, and he got it , bit now you are saying he can't use the spot as a parent he has a restraining order against has kids that go there?
Did I understand correctly?

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:49:53

Thanks for comments appreciated

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Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 13:52:04

No.i didn't put this school it wasn't a choice at all ....they gave him it as no places in any other school or the one he chose ....its ok i feel i shouldnt of asked for advuse as i see i should of.put more than 1 school ....I just wanted some advise that's all also thank u for comments

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ASauvignonADay Wed 10-Apr-19 13:57:46

You can ask for advice, although you probably need to answer questions so people can advise you!

Tomtontom Wed 10-Apr-19 14:03:07

What were your grounds for appeal for the school you put down, and did this appeal fail?

What is the next closest school (except the allocated one) that has places?

Holidayshopping Wed 10-Apr-19 14:05:39

Have you been allocated your catchment school?

Tomtontom Wed 10-Apr-19 14:15:52

Many areas no longer have catchment areas @Holiday.

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 14:17:26

I appealed with several reasons they have a great senco team and a small intake ect and the grounds of safety , I have appealed 3 times but it was a high birth rate year in 2007/2008 so yes hes been allocated catchment school which is big school with an even bigger year group, I have been and appealed to all 14 secondary schools but Its same story there full with huge waiting lists, and I've sat appeals with these schools and still.nothing....

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myrtleWilson Wed 10-Apr-19 14:21:02

Can I clarify when you say you've appealed do you mean you've submitted formal paperwork and then attended an appeal hearing?
Where are you on the waiting lists?

Ccivy1982 Wed 10-Apr-19 14:25:51

Yes I've done all the paperwork and appealed formally to.both schools and education Welfare.... I'm waiting on one more appeal , he's 179th on one, 6th on another and then he's in the 20s for the other 12 schools ..... I.know he's not the only child to not get into a school but most children. Don't have circumstances at 11 having been through a traumatic court case and just want to be kept safe

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