Parents evening.

[GerryblewuptheER]

What's the drill? Do you take the kids with you?

Or is it best to leave them home?

[clary]

Take them, helps Id the teacher, helps teacher (who sees 200 students a week) know who you are, also good for kids to hear the comments.

[GerryblewuptheER]

Great. Thanks :) that's kind of along the lines i was thinking but last time I just met the tutor this time it's the teachers so will need the help .

Now just to persuade dd...

[BackforGood]

Yes, it is expected at Secondary.

[TeenTimesTwo]

Definitely expected at out school, as PP said, it helps the teachers know who they are talking about. Also can be great for a less confident child to hear nice things said about them.

I go through the subjects with my DC beforehand asking how they feel about subject, e.g. especially enjoying, struggling with pace, some poor behaviour, whatever. Then as well as teacher saying their stuff I know if there is anything I need to raise.

Teachers often say 'So DC how do you feel you are getting on?' Which leaves mine in stunned silence, so it is helpful to be able to say 'they've said they enjoy lessons but sometimes there are some boys who chat quite loudly' or whatever.

[GU24Mum]

I'd check with the school. At ours, it was parents only for Years 7 and 8 but the children come along from Y9 onwards.

[BlueChampagne]

I checked with school office, and they said they like the children to come along too, even Y7. clary makes a good point about helping the teachers identify the parents, as well as the children hearing the comments (and knowing that a parent has too).

[GerryblewuptheER]

Dd is meeting me there so I will just ask at the office then and ifbtheybsay bonuses can walk home.

But shes reluctantly agreed to come to help me ID the teachers

[GerryblewuptheER]

If they say no then she can

Sorry I was typing too quick for phone to keep up

[MoBiroBo]

I am assuming it is happening now, but if not, our school categorically wants the child present to hear the teacher's comments.

I always make a few notes as to what the teacher is saying so that we can discuss anything with the DCs later. My notebook also allows either myself or Dh to have prepared any questions we may have or Ds has for the teacher.