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Gileswithachainsaw Tue 06-Nov-18 07:42:18

But just with the form tutor

Would it be appropriate to bring up concerns re the behaviour in the class with them or not?

There's one child in particular who seems to either single handedly disrupt the class or recruiting the others to muck about.

He spends half the lesson either pretending to go to the toilet or if he's refused he spends it asking to go to the toilet. He was amongst those responsible for preventing the class from finishing reading yesterday and while they were kept in to finish and miss half of lunch, guess who got to fuck off to the toilet hmm

The same name crops up on pretty much a daily basis. Dd just wants to get on with her work.

The only plus side is he is no longer sat next to my dd but I had to get him.removed to her as he was bullying her. He may not be next to her throwing her stuff abkut and shoving her around but he's still stopping them all from.being get on with things.

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TeenTimesTwo Tue 06-Nov-18 08:23:04

If she has a lot of lessons with this person, then yes OK to bring up, but indirectly.

'DD is finding it hard to concentrate because of the behaviour of some in the class, and feels they often disrupt lessons making it hard to make progress'.

The tutor will know who you are talking about.

BarbarianMum Tue 06-Nov-18 08:34:07

I'd bring it up. And although i wouldnt expect a solution on the spot, Id be very clear that I'd be wanting them to get back to me with one - or signposting to the HoY or whoever was appropriate for further discussion.

Pieceofpurplesky Tue 06-Nov-18 08:42:07

We do something like this and the role of the tutor is to take any notes and feedback to individual teachers.
Bring it up - you won't be the only one

Kazzyhoward Tue 06-Nov-18 08:46:40

Surely the teachers/tutor will already be dealing with the problem if they "know who you are talking about"?

Gileswithachainsaw Tue 06-Nov-18 08:48:08

Thank you.

I shall politely mention it then. Cos from sounds of it it's getting ridiculous. There was one day he was on internal exclusion dd said it was absolute bliss.

But ckearky all these behaviour points and the internal exclusion are doing Jack shit . He's been a pain in the arse from day one.

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Gileswithachainsaw Tue 06-Nov-18 16:59:18

Well more of the nonsense again today. In pretty much every lesson and to top it all off a teacher has set home work due in tomorrow and no one has been given the log in details to be able to do it. This school is a joke

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Namenic Tue 06-Nov-18 17:24:25

I hope the discipline problems get sorted out. I know the kid might have personal problems but it must be very disruptive to many people. Why don’t they just let him go to toilet? He’s gonna be the one missing out.

Gileswithachainsaw Tue 06-Nov-18 17:34:02

They do let him go. But because they have now cottoned on he disappears for ages nd goes to eat in the canteen they started saying no as it was multiple times a lesson. So when he is told no he just goes on and on til they let him

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Aventurine Tue 06-Nov-18 17:44:41

Oh no. I remember you from the Year 7 thread. I remember you mentioning bullying but I'm glad things are improving on that front. You could mention there seems to be disruption and ask if they are dealing with it.
I thought you were the toilet troll at first then recognised your name and that you were a regular poster! blush

Gileswithachainsaw Tue 06-Nov-18 17:57:01


Definately not the toilet troll.

Yes half a term in and we have had bullying both physically and verbal, a stampede in which dd was hurt and constant disruption.

Still, guess parents evenings going to be cheaper than whipsnade. I might ask how much a bag of feed is hmm

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Cauliflowersqueeze Tue 06-Nov-18 19:27:14

Email the head of year about this. The tutor can’t do that much.

MaisyPops Tue 06-Nov-18 20:22:23

Honestly as a tutor i would be powerless to do anything so mentioning it to me would just add to my workload.
I have zero issue with parents contacting me by the way (and am more than willing to fight and back parents if school systems aren't working) but as you're asking on a board then I'd say the best way to follow up that sort of issue is to go directly to head of year as that's all I would do as a form tutor.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 07-Nov-18 17:18:19

Well I don't want to create additional work for the firm tutor so I will look for the name of the head of year. Although the form tutor did email all the teachers about not sitting dd nr this kid, she's still next to him in ict and he spent half the lesson waving money in her face and being a pain in the arse

Getting really cross now. Clearly whatever they are attempting with him isn't working and he's determined to ruin it for everyone else too. Takes the piss

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MaisyPops Wed 07-Nov-18 18:03:11

I would go head of year on this one for sure having seen your reply. (Form tutor has probably hit the limit of what they can do and going back to them would mean them chatting with You, finding head of year, filling them in then head of year calling you. Much easier to go directly)

Honestly with these types of situation sometimes it takes someone less receptive staff consider to be senior to finally realise they have to do something.

At times me and my head of year have then gone to senior leadership if staff aren't doing basic things for situations and senior leadership have then put it in minutes from briefings that child x and child y should NOT be near each other and staff will be spoken to individually if they don't address it).

Sadly, some staff become jaded with requests to change seats because for every situation like yours which is genuine, we get 4 or 5 calls because 2 friends have fallen out last night on social media and now child a doesn't feel they want to go to geography because they're on a table with child b and then they don't want to go to drama because child b has a new friend in that class. But no sooner have you got staff to change the seating plan home are on the phone asking for it moved back because they're friends again now. Can you keep X and Y apart please because Y is bullying X (reality is X is a madam who goes round being a bitch to lots of kids and shit stirs and Y has told them nobody actually cares so shut up).

Sometimes I think if schools pandered less to the stupis requests then staff would be not inclined to take serious requests seriously.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 07-Nov-18 18:07:34

She says he's done it a few times waved money in her face. Right in her face . She has to move his arm away from her. She cant/won't tell me what he's been saying as he does it. She says she's been blocking him out when he does it but then whenever money has been offered/waved in front of a girls face it usually only means one thing...

But dd apparently doesn't hear so what can you do..

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Vanguard121 Thu 08-Nov-18 15:15:15

Are we talking about an independent school here?

I would mention it to the form tutor, and if they're worth their salt, they will possess the gumption to tackle this head on with the problem child directly, or refer the issue to HM immediately.

If a state school could be more bureaucracy - perhaps demand a meeting with headteacher at a mutually convenient time?

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