DD just started Y7. Her primary hot dinners were horrible so she's always had packed lunch. At the secondary induction and another time they were there she had hot dinners (lasagne and curry), pronounced them delicious and said she was always having hot dinners from now on. I was delighted as it's less hassle in the mornings, plus she's pretty fussy so I was really hoping she'd try some new stuff. Normally she eats zero veg (will have a banana a day but that's it), will eat a mouthful of the chicken from home made chinesey dishes plus some rice, pizza, pasta with tomato & mascarpone type stuff, lasagne and that's about it. She has a very sweet tooth (luckily is still very slim and healthy).
3 weeks in. I can see what she's buying at lunch so she can't lie to me about it. She's having plain past for lunch (says it's delicious, I assume they put butter/olive oil on it?), the odd piece of toast at break (fine), and almost every day a traybake/cookie/iced bun. When she doesn't have the cakey thing she's having some kind of sweetened drink (milkshake/iced slush thing etc).
I'm not happy about the cake bit every day if she's not eating any fruit or veg. Told her last week she could have them twice a week, last week she had it 3 times. She says all her friends have them and they're delicious. I point out that all her friends then go home and eat some vegetables (we put it on her plate but it's up to her if she eats them).
Yesterday she said she's had her last treat of the week (so Monday and Tuesday). I told her if she has more this week she needs to go back to packed lunch. Today she says she had to get a cake as she had some activity to get to and there was apparently 'no time to get anything else', although after the activity went and had some pasta (plain, obviously).
I had told her if she can't restrain herself to twice a week for treats she'll have to have packed lunches. She doesn't want to do that but has let me down again? I don't want to make food a battle ground, or have cake/iced bun/cookies be a 'treat' but it's all about balance and when she's allowed to make the choice there's no balance whatsoever. It's a side point but she's spending maybe £3.40 a day on this stuff which is waaaayy more than a packed punch would cost us.
She's struggling with the move to secondary in terms of keeping on top of her belongings etc (there's a whole other thread about that), so I don't want her to feel like she's incapable, but also she's incapable of controlling herself.
Any thoughts? Please be kind, it's been a tough day
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Connect with other parents whose children are starting secondary school on this forum.
Secondary education
DD (Y7) making bad food choices
23 replies
Plipplops · 26/09/2018 17:41
OP posts:
Soursprout ·
27/09/2018 06:26
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.