Need genuine advice. This has been building up for months and is not a knee jerk reaction to one event.
Ds has a teacher who is becoming less and less subtle of her intolerance for him. Ds has ASD and an EHCP so his difficulties aren’t a secret and should be well known by staff.
The subject is one ds love(d) and has always been above expected progress in. A few months ago he crossed it off his timetable and that was my indication things weren’t ok.
I know he was leaving the lesson frequently and I talked him through events at home.
It is clearly documented that ds cannot invent stories - he will give facts and can report everyone’s roll in a situation as he’s anxious and hyper aware. School admit he’s never instigated any physical situation despite him being physical when provoked.
Having spoken to teacher she said “well, ds does x y and z and is equally as bad as child he had issue with in lesson”. When asked for specific examples of what ds has done she could give none beyond “he’s annoying to his peers”. Further investigation annoying is basically his poor social communication and reading of social cues which is directly related to his disability.
There is a child in the class who is known to target ds. Staff have been told to keep him away from ds. Yet this particular teacher puts ds in detention every lesson for something this child has reported ds has done. Not done to him - but just done in general.
One example is this child was handing out the books. Ds didn’t get given his so outs his hand up and asks if she knows where it is. This pupil and his friend (who has been punished before for picking on ds) say “boom is here on floor as ds threw it”.
Ds says “I didn’t - you know I just asked you where it was”.
But teacher always says “it’s your word against 2/3/4 others so I believe them”.
Hoy was worse than useless as well when I’ve tried to address it.
I’m gutted because this school has been so good up until now but ds is predicted to make no progress from now to gcse in his science grade despite his target - and it’s all because of x y and z - things he’s reported to need support with on his EHCP.
Its taking over his life again causing such bad anxiety but I don’t know how to approach it to get them to realise the teachers personal feelings of ds are the barrier to improving the situation.
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How do you deal with it when teacher just doesn't like your child?
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youarenotkiddingme · 05/12/2017 18:33
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