‘First world problem’ alert and also this situation is hypothetical as my DS hasn’t received offers from either of these types of school (yet – hopefully!). My issue is that when my one and only child was born I made a promise to myself that he would have a top-notch education i.e. private. This is based, not only on results, but also on the impression I have that kids from private schools seem to emerge with ‘polish’, confidence and a sense the world is there’s for the taking (in a positive way). On him starting school, I then became aware of really outstanding non-selective state secondary schools. He’s now in year 6 and I’ve applied for two of these. They’re both in the Sunday Times Top 100 state school list and our first choice of these is in the top 20. I’ve loved this school when I’ve been to see it. It seems to have all the passion and drive of a private school but there are no exams to get in and no fees! As well as these I’ve also applied for some carefully chosen private schools i.e. ones where the boys I met on open days were a real delight: bright, ambitious, funny, personable (not toffs and not snobs). The kids in our No.1 preferred super-state school were like this too though. There is every chance that my son won’t get into any of the preferred schools that we’ve applied for (private or state) that we’ve applied to but I’ve already started thinking (worrying) about what on earth I’d do if he got an offer from on of a super-state and from a private school. When I think about him going to a super-state, I feel slightly anxious because the outcomes I’m after (good results plus ‘polish’ etc) is potentially less guaranteed. It also makes me feel that I’m being a cheapskate with regard to my son’s education. When I think about him going to a private school, I feel anxious about the money involved and that I’m throwing away an opportunity for him to get a great education for free in the state system. On the money side of thing, sending him to private school will be a stretch. I’d have to think about money A LOT more, cutting back on some things that we currently enjoy. I may have do more work (my employer says he can give me more although I dislike my job). If we opted for the state school option, there would be no money worries and we could have a really comfortable life (but with potentially a constant niggle that I’ve back tracked on the promise I’d always made: that he would be privately educated). My question is: has anyone else faced this dilemma and if so what did you choose, were you pleased with your choice or did you regret it. All advice would be very gratefully received. I’m thinking about this now, as I don’t want to have to do it in a panic when the offers come out (should I be lucky enough to get them from these schools).
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