Hi all. Just wanted to say thankyou for the people that helped me on the last thread (where DD with SNs was scared of a teacher - meeting went well and DD seems happier in said lesson now - I emphasised I didn't think there was any malice in it but DD was clearly struggling, keyworker had a word in X's ear and all sorted).
However we now have a new problem, sorry if I confuse you. DD started the school and made friends with A, A has since drifted off with the cool kids (As words).
DD made friends with a lovely girl, B who has a BF from primary school, C. C started getting jealous of DD & Bs friendship and started making things difficult, rumour spreading ans sending messages that were unkind. School took this seriously and it was dealt with swiftly. C has since realised that DD poses no danger to her in stealing B of her & all is well. They are all friends now.
Still with me? X isn't happy about this and has been mithering DD for a few weeks now. I've advised DD to ignore as X is clearly just looking for a reaction. That much so in PE when they all had to be out in teams to use certain equipment, DD was put in Xs team and didn't get a chance to have a go in time. X started telling the other girls off because DD didn't ger a turn and it turned into a full blown argument. DD being DD told them that it didn't matter, it was her that was due the turn, she's not bothered so neither should they be. X and friends then turned on DD for not being bothered enough Told DD to let it go this time. She did and X was fine with DD for a few days (they share a number of lessons). Last week X made B&C delete and block DD from their phones in front of DD and this week X has made DD get up out of her seat on the bus as X wanted to sit there. (there was plenty of room - it was just X wanting to get what X wanted).
DD went to have a word with her keyworker who called the girls in but X made C get called in too. (C has nothing to do with it this time & I just think they're trying to make C resent DD again).
My problem is. The school keep telling DD and X just to keep away from each other. They get the same school bus together and share most of the lessons so it simply isn't possible. I struggle to know when I should leave DD to sort social problems out herself and when I need to step in and say to the school you need to be doing more.
After the incident with making her move seats on the bus, X was called in and spoken to, and it had no effect as DD had a lesson with her the same afternoon in which X spent the hour continually muttering things to DD under her breathe that DD could hear but the teacher couldn't.
How would you handle this please?
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JonSnowsWife · 23/11/2017 21:30
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