DS has been at secondary for about a month and I'm starting to worry about him. He is struggling to cope with the various different demands on him and getting used to the new environment and ways of working. He's been tearful most evenings the last couple of weeks with worrying about it all.
He loved it for the first week or so but he's been put into 'top set' and I'm not sure whether that is putting more pressure on him. He has 15 different teachers, each of which set homework which is due in at different times. He has a planner and we've been encouraging him to try to do homework as soon as he gets it so he doesn't get behind. But he still feels overwhelmed with it and worries that he's going to be told off or get detention for not doing it well enough. He says the teachers are really strict (I'm guessing they may just seem that way compared to primary). He's always been a bit scatterbrained but I think the stress is making him worse so he keeps forgetting things. He's lost one of his books and now he's lost his PE kit. I've talked him through it and said I can't re-buy a whole PE kit so he needs to go to lost property and if it's not there to retrace his steps to see where it might be. He just burst into tears and said he'll never find it and he'll probably get a detention.
Last week he got a migraine, which he's had a couple of times before when he's been worrying about things, and that made him vomit at school so he had to come home. The medical woman asked if he was ok emotionally as he seemed very upset about it. He also has a medical issue which means he sometimes wets himself. The school are aware of this and he has a toilet pass and various other things in place, but he's not using his toilet pass as he doesn't want to draw attention to himself in class or get told off (which I've told him he won't but he says I don't know what his teachers are like).
He only turned 11 a week before he started secondary so he feels young compared to the other children. But I'm not sure whether I'm making excuses for him and he should be able to deal with it all and he needs to just organise himself. Or should I speak to his teacher to say he's struggling a bit and might need some support? Is this normal for the start of secondary?
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How much is expected of year 7s when they start secondary school? DS is so stressed.
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iwouldgoouttonight · 03/10/2017 13:17
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