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Teachers...is this normal or am I over reacting?

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yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:36

Can I have some advice on this situation which happened today...

DD 12 stayed behind at school tonight to help set up for an exhibitionon for tomorrow night. During this time she went with a teacher in her car to a local shop to buy some some snacks and materials. Teacher couldnt park so gave DD bank card and pin number for her to go in a buy the stuff.

Im shocked 😕 because:

I thought DD was at school
Is it the norm for pupils to go out in the teachers car just the 2 of them
Was there insurance
My child was out of the teachers sight in the shop
My child was asked to use the teachers card and had pin number

Im just shocked or is this quite the norm???

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EduCated · 19/04/2017 23:39

It does seem an unusual situation, and one lots of teachers would avoid putting themselves into.

hesterton · 19/04/2017 23:40

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FanSpamTastic · 19/04/2017 23:40

I'm not a teacher but a parent with kids at secondary. I would say it is a tad unusual. My dd has gone in a car with a teacher to an after school event - but school called and asked for permission and she was with another pupil, so not alone. I knew she was going and when they would be back.

AntigoneJones · 19/04/2017 23:41

why have you started a second thread on the same topic ?
obviously this is not the norm, and the teacher is foolish and naive.

yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:41

DD thinks it's hillarious being given the bank card and pin number well impressed.

I just feel uncomfortable about all of it.

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justkeeponsmiling · 19/04/2017 23:42

Why have you started three separate threads about this tonight

yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:42

Because I'd like more "teacher" input

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yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:44

Lots of parents posting but I'd like a teachers perspective. Some areas have more traffic at this time of night

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justkeeponsmiling · 19/04/2017 23:45

You have had plenty of teacher input on your first thread. Jeeez I get that this is odd but come on!

yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:45

Plus Im guessing these sections are more appropriate

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AntigoneJones · 19/04/2017 23:45

well I am from a family of school teachers and can assure you that this teacher is not acting in a 'normal' way and she is being very silly.
Sorry I only teach EFL myself ,

EvilTwins · 19/04/2017 23:46

I've taken kids to/from events in my car before though their parents always know. I wouldn't give them my bank card though I have given cash to get things for shows etc (but ask for change and receipts) Honestly, I wouldn't make a massive fuss about this. Sounds like it was all done with the best of intentions and you could potentially make her feel like she's done something really awful. How old is the teacher?

EduCated · 19/04/2017 23:48

Just seen your other thread, where yes you did have plenty of teacher input (and where your DD was a DS).

Have you considered how (/if) you might approach the school about it?

yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:48

Justkeepon - there were only 3 teacher replies and 1 was a new teacher.

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yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:52

Im there tomorrow night so am going to speak to the teacher in person just yo highlight I'd rather be made aware if my child was being taken out of school and rather they were not given bank cards

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yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:53

In fact probably helpful for the teacher as well to realise boundaries have been crossed

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EvilTwins · 19/04/2017 23:55

How old is the teacher? Several people have asked.

AntigoneJones · 19/04/2017 23:56

I wouldn't mention it tbh.

EvilTwins · 19/04/2017 23:57

Certainly a bit off to speak to teacher at the concert. Which is being done, unpaid, in her own time, for the benefit of the children.

yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:57

I dont know age need to check tomorrow ... would age be a factor???

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yohoohoo · 19/04/2017 23:59

Evil...what if something had happened to the teacher and my child today.

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NonnoMum · 20/04/2017 00:00

A bit unwise of the teacher, but with a concert looming there would have been a mad time pressure (was it to get flowers/refreshemtns/presents etc?) . Please don't mention it until after the concert.

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ScarletSienna · 20/04/2017 00:00

What is it you would like people to give you advice on about your DD/DS?

AntigoneJones · 20/04/2017 00:00

yes but it didn't did it?
I am sure the teacher is responsible and insured...

EvilTwins · 20/04/2017 00:01

Possibly in terms of experience. As I said, I have given numerous lifts to students over the years (to the point that I no longer need directions to some of their houses) but always with parents' knowledge. I have been teaching for 21 years and would not appreciate a parent giving me advice or telling me off about it - but then, they would have known in advance. A younger teacher may be being a bit naive but I would still suggest handling it sensitively and not making a fuss - certainly not at an evening event.

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