DS is very outgoing, makes friends easily and never thought we'd have a problem. When we go on holiday he always goes up to kids, makes friends etc... An only child so doesn't have much of a choice but he is really unhappy at school. It's being going on and off now since Sept start and we've just left o although have said how normal it is for some kids to settle and it's all normal but he doesn't seem to believe it. It builds up and then he has melt downs, real crying fits usually at bedtimes, main issues he says are:
Hasn't got any friends
Everyone hangs round together but he doesn't fit in
He feels different
Everyone likes football he doesn't but has asked for Fifa 17 so he can "fit in"
He says if he goes up and joins in with certain groups they ignore him or he feels he's going to look or say something stupid
He's an only child so sometimes he likes being on his own but knows this doesn't help
Some boys in some of his classes call him stupid, weird, loud and pick on him he says
He says he didn't think 2ndary school would be like this...he hates school
These are some of the things he's said. It breaks my heart particularly when he cries and cries and gets so very upset.
Last week he broke down in class as a boy had pushed him and think it toppled him over the edge. He felt terrible as he cried in class and it was in his favourite teachers class. The teacher did pick up on it and asked him to stay back and had a chat I think he told him a few of the above, so teacher said he would email his head of year and see if they could help. The next day he had a full blown temperature and has since been off school only back today so not sure if there has been anything said. The teacher is not on an exchange trip so not in school.
There is a boy he sometimes walks to school with but because I work near school he oftens comes in with me as he can get a lift. Another boy he really likes came out on a play date in the hols with us then DS got invited to his birthday party. Ive said well invite this boy out again or over but as DS says yes but that's buying friendship I want it to happen naturally and not have to bride people to come out - which I do get his point.
He breaks up on Friday and Im not sure what to do.
Do I email the head of year tonight and see if she had received an email and to see if she can speak with him before Friday (only leaves, Wedn, Thurs then Fri) or do I leave it until after the hols to see how things go
Work wise he's ok and where he should be but he seems to have no enthusiasm for learning but not sure if this is a knock on affect
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Year 7 - DS still really struggling to settle in. Really need some advice on the issues he lists...normal? If so what should I be doing?
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yohoohoo · 13/12/2016 14:00
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