I went to a private girls school so maybe I don't understand the realities of comps but DD's experience so far of year 7 has surprised me. Constant people asking each other out, having massive fall outs and not talking for weeks, lots of teasing and nasty behaviour. They have only known each other for a few weeks! I expected this when they were teens but not that she would be thrown straight in the deep end.
Feeling a bit concerned as she is getting very over whelmed by the whole thing and I don't know if or when to intervene or just hope it all settles down. She is a sweet and fairly quiet girl and is finding it hard to keep friends at this stage - her new best friend has just dumped her and unfollowed her on instagram and she has no idea why but gets shouted at if she tries to ask.
Anyone else found year 7 to be like this or have we chosen a school full of drama queens?
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Have year 7's always been this over-dramatic?!
Titsywoo · 03/11/2016 20:42
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DS watched from afar last year (he is amazingly aloof 
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Year 8, and it actually seems to have calmed down a bit. The groups of children who are particularly dramatic are still going through the motions, but the rest are just getting on with school and stuff.
A lot of it was social media based.
Yeah I suppose it could be social media based that DD isn't seeing. Yeah that's a good point fran - saved by the bell was far less angst-ridden 
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I'm trying to encourage her to join some clubs so she can meet more people. She does have some friends still luckily. But this one was the friend she really clicked with. Such a shame.
The joy of having kids eh?
The girl doesn't sound nice if she shouts at her and unfollows her etc. I hope she meets nicer people and the class settles down. I went to a girls' grammar and i remember at the beginning of year 7 (called 1st year then) the whole class sort of ganging up to make fun of a girl. We'd all come from different schools and it was like some horrible group bonding against a common victim thing. 
The girl left and things settled down but i remember another girl being ganged up on in year 9. I had a girl be quite nasty to me in the sixth form in the same school. So i guess meaness has always gone on in different types of schools.
just speak that sounds awful. It's not like that in DS's school. I chat regularly with one of the girls who is an old friend, and is much one of the In Crowd - she's had a lost of attention from the boys early on, but has just laughed it all off, with a toss of her hair. Girls very much in charge, and no way would they be showing their underwear. They're still into (rather cool Japanese) cartoons.
Girls think it's funny I think and yeah nothing to do with state or private sorry to hear of that justspeak
But if that's shocking DD is (18) and is at the end of abuse from a 28 year old woman and many other women in a Facebook group ranging from 22-40+ sending her a lot of abuse ranging from racial to emotional and threatening behaviour and referring to DD as harvey price Katie prices son. DD is obviously very distressed but just shows how bitchy some girls are 
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