Forgive the weirdly titled post. It'll be hard to explain properly I think. I'm currently on a Y7 starters thread but I'd like to get opinions from parents that have been through these years too.
Anyway, dd has started Y7 at a school where she is only one of 2 pupils from her primary. The school put them in the same tutor group. They have lots of lessons in their tutor group but settled for Maths athough they'll be mixed up again as they progress in future.
Dd has settled well. Taken to the school work and organising herself brilliantly. Her only wobbles are socially. Although she has people to talk to and sit with she's not made any deeper friendships, but it's early days. I'm proud of the fact that she's joined the Netball team, drama club and bug club etc.
The problem is the other girl from her primary. Having spent 6 years together my dd knows that she doesn't get on with this other girl. Nothing nasty, just totally different personalities and maturity levels. They've never socialised in school or outside it. In fact my dd says she finds the other girl quite irritating but has sucked it up. We've discussed that you can't like everyone you have to deal with. Just be polite and move on etc. However the other girl is finding things really hard so far in school. As a consequence she is literally clinging to my dd. She is following her everywhere and insisting that my dd is her partner whenever they need one. This week the girl turned up to all dd's new clubs and insisted on being by her side.
Dd keeps coming home a frustrated and concerned that she's being a bit suffocated by her but feels like she has to be nice to stop the other girl complaining. It got so bad last week that dd ducked behind a door as the class filled out for lunch break so she could go to the library on her own to finish some homework in peace. In music class the other girl put my dd down a lot in front of the others saying that in primary school dd was famous for not being able to sing (not true).
It all sounds so petty. Dd feels like she's at a point where she might snap and say something mean to the girl in order that she can have some peace and maybe work/meet different people.
I can't complain to a Y7 tutor about another pupils lack of making new friends can I? I'm just worried that dd is doing well and being proactive making social inroads herself but she's being 'stopped' by someone who wasn't exactly her friend in the place.
Anyone had anything similar? How long until this all blows over?
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oklumberjack · 12/10/2016 12:37
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