My daughter is 14 and at a state secondary school. The school is socially very mixed with some quite rough elements, but she has managed to gather a seemingly 'nice' band of friends from attentive and capable families.
However, over the course of the last few few days, it has come to my attention that her school has a big problem with weed being sold and used on the school premises. It seems, in fact, to be rife across all year groups!
The school are working with the local police to find and expel the worst offenders, and some arrests have even been made. However, they are doing so 'quietly' - I suspect because they do not want to damage their reputation.
After discovering all this, I thoroughly checked my daughter's phone and discovered that a handful of her 'nice' friends, from 'good' homes, are amongst the significant minority of school kids who are regularly buying using drugs and alcohol.
She seems not to have indulged herself, yet she did not want to tell me for risk of being ostracised. Sadly, the parents in question, parents who I see for termly drinks, seem not to have a clue about what their kids are up to.
The obvious thing would be to tell the parents and / or the school but my situation is more complicated. My daughter has SEN and we are not a popular family at the school as result of the extra effort she requires. Also, until recently she was regularly bullied and had few friends. Making a little group has taken years of 'social skills training' and resilience on her part.
Upping sticks and leaving the school is not an option for us. On the other hand, if I tried to inform parents / the school and became known as an 'informer', then my daughters social wellbeing at school will surely plummet.
Not to mention the risk of 'shoot the messenger'.
What do I do? Clever ideas anybody?
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Advice please: Drugs Rife at school
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nellyfromthetelly · 05/06/2016 12:17
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