Can't sleep - need advice please!
There are four secondaries in our town. We're in the catchment for two of them.
One of the catchment schools is in special measures. I was worried about this but decided that We should not worry too much about the ofsted and make our own judgement after seeing the school. I hated it when we looked around, they gave us the really hard sell and wouldn't let us talk freely to any of the staff. It all felt very controlled/stage managed. DD also didn't like the feel of the school.
We loved the other catchment school, which is also nearer to our home. It had a fantastic atmosphere and felt really nurturing. About half of dd's friends will be going there, and she has set her heart on it. We're in catchment, our neighbour's kids go there and dd went to a feeder primary school. I assumed that she would get in.
We put the nice catchment school as our first choice. Second choice was the local Catholic secondary. Academically, it's probably the best school in town, and dd is bright, so it would suit her in that way, but we're not Catholic. I'm agnostic and so is DH but I think dd would describe herself as an atheist. We put the school down because it seemed to be the second best choice on offer but it didn't really occur to me that dd would get in because we aren't religious and I'd heard all sorts of stories about people going to church for years to get in.
I didn't think she would get in, but put it down anyway because anything was better than the other catchment school which we really didn't like. Same with our third choice which was an oversubscribed school that is quite far from our house. Tbh, I really thought she would get into our first choice, but I figured that anything was better than the awful school. I do still feel this.
Anyway, now we have the result and she didn't get into the nice catchment school after all. To my astonishment, she did get into the catholic school. She didn't get into our third choice.
So now I'm panicking. DD will be really disappointed and she hates the idea of going to a religious school. Does anyone have experience of being a non-Catholic at a catholic school? We were completely honest in our application so she wouldn't have to pretend that she believed but they do say that parents should support the school's Christian ethos. I don't really have a problem with this but I am worried that dd might!
If we decline this school, I suspect that there will be spaces at the catchment school that we hated, as I haven't met a single person who wanted to go there. Academically, it isn't on a par with the Catholic option but I don't want to force dd into religious observance that she isn't comfortable with. She has quite strong views on this, despite only being 10!
Will check out where we are on the waiting list for our first choice school in any case, but don't hold out much hope. I don't think that we really have good grounds for appeal either - I'm guessing that our first choice is just heavily over subscribed this year.:(
Oh FWIW, I don't think much of our local private options either. We had a look but I wasn't wildly impressed so dd didn't sit the exam. So we've missed the boat on that as well.
Feel like I've stuffed everything up for her, and now stuck between a rock and a hard place.
WWYD? Go for the "good" Catholic school even though it doesn't seem a great fit for dd? Do I have any other option?
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Atheist kid in a Catholic School - WWYD
Brokenbiscuit · 01/03/2016 04:23
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