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sighbynight Wed 10-Feb-16 20:02:58

My DS (14) is currently suspended from his independent school for persistently disruptive behaviour. We are currently awaiting the outcome of a psychiatric assessment as he seems both highly anxious and depressed. He has had suicidal thoughts.

Thing is, I can't imagine him conforming readily once he returns after half term, so I need to start considering our options. The local state school isn't really an option. And I can't really imagine any other schools queuing up to offer him a place right now, although he is both academic and sporty. When he feels like it.

Who should I be speaking to about this? I feel very powerless just now, although I know that until we have the assessment and also an ed psych assessment, I can't do much.

Foxyloxy1plus1 Wed 10-Feb-16 21:30:00

Why isn't the local school an option?

I wouldn't have thought assessments would guarantee a place either, but may give you more information about his state of mind and how best to support him in future. Is home ed an option?

Wolfiefan Wed 10-Feb-16 21:31:33

What does he want to do?

sighbynight Wed 10-Feb-16 22:04:01

He says he wants to stay where he is. He just can't seem to put that into action. And home ed is a blood curdling thought. He doesn't respect the boundaries we set, I can imagine that would make educating him easy.

The local school is a failing school, unfortunately. All the parents I know from there don't have a good word to say about it. Particularly its pastoral care. Sadly.

Ladymuck Thu 11-Feb-16 10:08:35

Has your current head got a suggestion? DCs school seems to suggest schools where a fresh start may be welcome.

sighbynight Thu 11-Feb-16 19:18:42

Yes, I will have that conversation. Good idea. Him being at home has been OK thus far - touch wood - he is much calmer and more responsive on his own. He kicks off when I collect his 3 siblings from school though.

perrycourt Sat 26-Mar-16 11:33:46

Has anyone had to move school summer term of year 10? School suggesting another school may suit my DD better and will give good reference if she moves now - currently at boarding school in north west but not sure if boarding a good option.

tiggytape Sat 26-Mar-16 12:19:43

Why are they suggesting a move and would the move to be repeat Year 10 at another independent school?

Unless there are exceptional circumstances, I really don't see how a move to any new school for Year 11 would be good for DD - boarding or otherwise.

She is presumably studying for her GCSEs. It is far from guaranteed that a new school would be able to offer her the same subject selection and they may be using different exam boards (so different curriculum of study) in which case she would effectively be a whole year behind in some subjects.

perrycourt Sat 26-Mar-16 12:30:59

Hi Tiggytape -
She hasn't fitted in to the school since she started and it was one thing after another - now she is targeted when any bad behaviour starts no matter who is doing it - even when other children say its not her - been suggested we move now with good reference
no idea what to do - we were hoping to get through GCSE's then move even though we've wanted to go for ages now.
Would prefer day school now I think - current school has hardly any supervision and majority of times Ive been there no adult in sight which hasn't helped and has massively put me off boarding.
anyone know of anywhere doing one year GCSE's??

tiggytape Sat 26-Mar-16 13:55:47

I'd never heard of pupils doing a block of 1 year GCSEs but a quick Google shows that some schools and colleges do offer this - even 5-7 subjects all at once. Whether these would be suitable in terms of age or location though, I don't know and I can't help but feel it would be very much a last resort.

If she did move school, she might be able to start again in Year 10 and do GCSEs at a conventional pace but the problem is that the current Year 10s are on the threshold of all the GCSE changes. The current Year 10's have new exams in maths and English but next year's Year 10's will have new style exams in most subjects.

Would you be happy for her to stay at her current school and finish Year 11 if the school could be persuaded to allow it? Would a change of class or some extra support at school help?

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