First time posting anything on this site, I'm so confused and slightly panicking because everyone around me is panicking.
I have a DSS at Harrow and a DSD at Cheltham Ladies C. When they were going through the process, I mainly kept out of it as their mother was so aware and in charge of everything, so didn't want to step on her toes.
DS is now in year 4, (8 years old) and his Prep school have set up meetings with all the parents to give them a run down on which schools to be aware of, which they would recommend, which to go look at etc.
It's always just been an idea to try and get DS into Harrow as that's where DSS is at right now although won't be anymore when it would be time for DS to go
At our meeting DS' school said that they believed he would massively struggle at Harrow, even getting him in would be an uphill battle as he's not the type they usually take, academically he's suited but personality wise they feel Harrow would eat him alive. He's very quiet, like a mouse, won't speak up even if he needs the toilet, prefers individual activists to massive group ones etc.
Eton they also said no to as although he might find it easier to get into as they apparently prioritse those with academic abilities, he would for similar reasons struggle there.
They have suggested his best options would be St Pauls and Winchester College, although they don't send a lot of children to those particular schools, they seemed quite confident at being able to get DS into them and most importantly that he would be far better suited there.
I personally prefer St Pauls as he can do Day instead of boarding but so far that's the only reason, I have on favouring SP.
DSS and his mother, think I'm crazy for not even thinking about registering him for Harrow anymore, she says that the HM most likely only said it because they need to diversify where their school leaver go . I don't actually think that's the case, HM and the school have always put DS first and know him inside out.
DSD is friends with a few Paulina's and is rooting for St Pauls.
Loads of the other parents are being very secretive about where they're thinking of sending their DS' so can't get any decent advice from off the playground.
So I'm confused about whether I should register DS for Harrow as everyone thinks it's brilliant or go with the schools advice and try for the other two schools.
Does anyone have kids at any of the schools above, are the school right in thinking a quiet more academic boy would be better suited for St Pauls / Winchester over Harrow?
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MonroeMacy · 29/10/2015 18:59
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