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Not happy - contraception posters in school toilets and gen noticeboards

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portico · 21/11/2014 06:18

Not happy when DS communicated to me that so called contraception posters have been placed in school toilets, as part of a supposed school campaign to prevent pregnancies, stds, etc. it is wrong. Does not acknowledging underage sex show crass stupidity in recognising that it exists. Why not have posters to communicate the right reasons for abstinence. Better still, why not remove the posters. Very, very pissed off parents.

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Mostlyjustaluker · 21/11/2014 06:23

If the posters are removed the students won't be able access protection against sti and unwanted pregnancy. All research into sex education shows that good sex education including the education provided by both school and home reduces sti and unwanted pregnancy and in many cases delays the age when young people starting to have sex.

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mcdog · 21/11/2014 06:24

A secondary school????? Where some of the children will be 16 Smile
I think any sort of reminder to use contraception is a bloody good idea. I also think you need to calm the fuck down!!

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weegiemum · 21/11/2014 06:25

Why would you be cross? Knowing how to access contraception prevents teenage pregnancy and the spread of stds. The more opportunities taken to get information out there, the better. Are you also against SHRE classes in school?

I'm really struggling to understand what your problem is?

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NoelleHawthorne · 21/11/2014 06:25

At the GRAMMAR school youre so obsessed with?
clutches pearls

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weegiemum · 21/11/2014 06:26

That's it noelle. Grammar school pupils don't have sex!

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madwomanbackintheattic · 21/11/2014 06:27

I think abstinence is largely recognized as a lost cause in the face of teenage hormones for a fair percentage of the student population.

Better for them to have been given at least some idea of contraceptive choices, perhaps?

They aren't advertising sex. No kid that planned on waiting is going to be swayed by a contraceptive ad and persuaded that they may as well get on it.

It is a waste of time though. Kids will just add graffiti to them and they will be taken down. In exactly the same way that abstinence posters would have.

I'm not entirely sure why you are so irritated? Pop him in a catholic school instead if you are struggling with the idea that he is growing up. They don't have contraceptive ads, for sure. (My kids are in a catholic school. i'm not dissing them).

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NoelleHawthorne · 21/11/2014 06:27

Are the posters in Latin? Or a level 6 and above kind of language?
Might they MAKE BOYS DO SEXY THINGS? Hmm

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NoelleHawthorne · 21/11/2014 06:28

Plus why not just call school and ask?

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MirandaWest · 21/11/2014 06:28

Not sure that posters promoting abstinence would do anything useful - they're unlikely to stop underage sex. Plus there will be students there who are 16 and over and so legally able to have sex anyway.

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AuntieStella · 21/11/2014 06:28

In the loo is a good place, as pupils can note down details of how to access help in private.

I don't think a poster about sources of contraception is going to do much to alter decisions on whether/when to have sex.

Glad to see they are in the boys loos, not just seen as a girls issue.

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madwomanbackintheattic · 21/11/2014 06:38

did you really wake up at 6am frothing about contraceptive posters? Grin

I am mildly happy for you that you have nothing more important to fret about, if a little envious. Life is good, eh? Grin

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portico · 21/11/2014 06:39

NoelleHawthorne.....I shall deal with you later

Fine to pitch it at 16 year olds, but why pitch at younger students. To recognise that those underage do it, is not right.

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Innocuoususername · 21/11/2014 06:42

It's pitched at younger students because the time to get messages across about contraception is BEFORE they start having sex Hmm
And I wouldn't discount the possibility that some of the 13 year olds are sexually active (even in a grammar school Grin)

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flowery · 21/11/2014 06:43

To recognise that those underage do it, is not right.

Why is it not right? If, as you recognise, underage students do it, what is gained by ignoring that and pretending they don't?

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weegiemum · 21/11/2014 06:43

So would you rather a 15 year old got pregnant? Providing sex education, including posters, doesn't "make" teenagers have sex. There are always going to be those who do, so much better safe than sorry, don't you think?

When you say it's "not right", in what way?

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ShanghaiDiva · 21/11/2014 06:43

Under age sex exists. Therefore it is important students know how yo protect themselves from stds and unwanted pregnancy. Posters should not be removed IMO.

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MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 21/11/2014 06:43

What a good idea, hopefully more schools will do the same.

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pinoli · 21/11/2014 06:44

Arf at deal with you later Grin

Is this an inside joke I'm missing? You sound quite mad OP.

Teenagers have sex, twas ever thus. I doubt they are throwing mass orgies in the loo because of a poster

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angelicjen · 21/11/2014 06:45

Sticking your head in the sand doesn't make it go away.

Plus younger children aren't being encouraged to have sex, they're being encouraged to be comfortable with talking about contraception and know where to get it. Useful if they can't talk to their uptight mums.

And if anything it will just remind them there can be consequences and put them off.

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pinoli · 21/11/2014 06:46

You sound way overly involved in your kids school/ing

Were you that mum who always had to talk to the primary teacher everyday?

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portico · 21/11/2014 06:47

No Pinoli, I just mention that I would address noelle's flippant comments later

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bananananacoconuts · 21/11/2014 06:48

We have posters up at our school and are currently doing sex ed with yr 7 (basic) and yr 9 (more in depth). The posters we have up are there to remind students of the choices they have for when the time comes for them to need it. There has never been a letter of complaint as far as i'm aware, but we have had many students discussing the posters with us and

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hesterton · 21/11/2014 06:48

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Iggi999 · 21/11/2014 06:52

Do you want your ds to use contraception if he has sex?
Not sure what a "supposed" campaign is as opposed to a campaign, or a so-called poster!
But complain away, they might be removed then and you can be pleased with yourself when the next teenager gets pregnant.

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/11/2014 06:53

:o at "I'll deal with you later".

Clearly your dcs need this info, since it doesn't sound like you're giving them information on contraception, and you're not sounding as though you'd be open to discussing it if they approached you.

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