So DD moved to secondary school in September and has just turned 12.
She is "gifted" but has stayed in her year group during primary school and just has some extra work sheets etc.
This is mostly because we want her have a normal childhood with kids her own age and develop socially as well as mentally. As she has gotten older we have given her more choice to compete in school competitions etc if she wants to. Sometimes she does but she would rather go to after school activities or out with friends.
Anyway. Parents evening yesterday. In primary school she always had the same report. Quiet and conscientious works hard and is friendly with everyone.
This time apart from drama,French , p.e and music (either new subjects or subjects she isn't very good at) we had some pretty bad reports. She is zoning out in class ,making excuses to go to the toilet all the time , talking when she shouldn't,drawing silly pictures and scribbles on workbook,deliberately forgetting homework,muttering under her breath when other kids get the answer wrong.
The worst was maths were apparently on Wednesday she said that she didn't want to do the work as its too easy. Then when the math teacher tried to talk to her after class she told him that she was just struggling because her dad is in hospital (he isn't).
I told the school to call if there are any problems and to punish her if she broke the rules.
So I asked her about it at home she is upset. She says the work is boring and she doesn't like the teachers. She is okay in some subjects because she isn't very good at them so she would feel silly acting out in them in case they thing she is being naughty cause she can't do the work. She can do the work in other classes so it doesn't matter what she does. I told her it did matter and boredom was no excuse. She said that she didn't think I would find out about it because their were naughtier children in the class and she didn't think the teachers would notice that much.
She said she would try harder.
Then today she comes home and I check her homework book and she has tipexed a big box in it. She wouldn't say why at first. I said I would phone the school. She tells me that she had to answer 15 questions in English today. After about 10 she was bored so she drew a picture on the work book But the teacher had asked them to keep the books clean because they are the only set she has.When she noticed what DD had done she told her that she would have to give the school the money for a new one and the note was to tell me that a check would need to sent into school.
DD tipexed it because she knew I would be disappointed in her after telling me yesterday that she would behave.
I don't know what to do. It's not like she is going out and fighting but it is still bad behaviour and she knows it.what annoys me more is she doesn't even try to complete the work just decides it's to easy. If she did the work and then she was bored I wouldn't be quite as annoyed.
Shehe even said to me yesterday that a lot of the time the work they give her would take her the whole of the allotted time but because she knows the answers she can't be bothered to write them down.
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DD (12) year 7 bad parents evening already.
wilddogbert · 24/10/2014 17:43
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