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Ds punched - wwyd?

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Neverenoughhoursintheday · 23/10/2014 01:15

Ds was punched in the stomach yesterday whilst waiting to go in class. From what I understand a boy took his tie and threw it, as my ds went to pick it up another boy punched him in the stomach. It must've been with some force as my ds banged his head as he fell.

The teacher witnessed it and asked my ds if he was ok, he said he was. The teacher gave the boy a detention.

I only discovered this through another child in ds' form telling me. Ds is quite chilled and doesn't make a fuss, sometimes when i think he should. It was a one off incident - he's not been bothered by these kids before so I don't think its a bullying thing - at the moment, i've told him to tell me if anyone bothers him.

Ds feels its been dealt with by the school as do I. However, should the school not have let me know about the incident? Or as he said he was ok and didn't go to the medical room do they not have an obligation to. I would have thought they should, particularly as he banged his head - though the teacher may not have seen that.

Would you speak to the school? If so, do you go through the form tutor?

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Blu · 23/10/2014 01:40

I would leave it if you are sure that it was a one off, and as long as he has 't got concussion or anything. Your DS feels it was dealt with, the teacher asked if he was ok , he said yes, so if he seems ok you can assume that the teacher also was reasonable in assuming he was ok,

You have yo trust your DS to know whether he needs you to intervene or not if he is going to trust you by telling you things.

Keep an eye out though for any repeat incidence

It's really hard. My office window overlooks a boys school and I am shocked and bemused by the way boys behave with boys whi are their friends. Especially the year 7s for some reason.

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Neverenoughhoursintheday · 23/10/2014 01:44

Thanks Blu - I don't want to steam in and make an issue when there isn't one, but I just want to protect my boy. It is year 7 btw

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claraschu · 23/10/2014 05:20

Just wanted to say that I don't think you can trust kids to tell you when they need you to intervene. Lots of kids are too humiliated by bullying to tell anyone about it with words, but they will often tell you with their behaviour. If your son is happy, lively, and has friends, I wouldn't worry. If his behaviour changes, I wouldn't trust any protestations that he is "fine".

I guess this is a more general warning, not really a comment on this particular incident, which sounds like a one-off.

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Blu · 23/10/2014 08:10

"If your son is happy, lively, and has friends, I wouldn't worry. If his behaviour changes, I wouldn't trust any protestations that he is "fine". "

I think that is a good 'watch and listen' policy. I re-read your OP and the thing that would make me prick up my ears is the fact that two kids were involved, one who threw his tie and the one who punched him. But again, there can be a mad chemistry that takes hold.

Watch and listen.

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