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12 Year old girl not interested in academic work but loves cooking

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xing Wed 27-Aug-14 15:15:13

Can I ask if there is a such specialist school for a 12 year old who has no interest in academic study at all but loves physical actives such as PE, cooking even housework?

Or 12 is too early to give up study?

antimatter Wed 27-Aug-14 15:17:20

it is too early

even if she wants to become a chef and go then to college she needs basic skills

make her interested in using maths in calculations for recipes

tittifilarious Wed 27-Aug-14 15:24:57

She can access studio schools from age 14. These have a vocational focus but she will also gain the core basic skills.

Dancingqueen17 Wed 27-Aug-14 19:13:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

xing Fri 29-Aug-14 10:19:38

The girl is from overseas 1 year ago and currently in an independent school in Oxfordshire. She is very happy at school as there are plenty of games, drama lessons that don't need academy work, but it seems such a waster with thousands of pounds paid just to "play" in school....

antimatter Fri 29-Aug-14 10:30:36

are you sure is wasted?

and - are you a mother who is paying?

antimatter Fri 29-Aug-14 10:31:14

or I should say - parent/guardian

besides - good education is more than just academics

xing Fri 29-Aug-14 10:45:08

Antimatter, the girl is my niece, my brother's daughter, my brother is paying the fee. She is going to a day school and stay in my house after school. Tracing back, my brother is not academic at all, either the girl's mum. Being very academic myself, maybe I did not see her true potential.

It is very frustrating seeing her prefer cooking, gardening and doing house chore all day during summer holidays rather then spending some time to learn English vocabulary that she really need for her school work.

antimatter Fri 29-Aug-14 10:54:28

Is the English vocabulary been set to her as homework by her school?

xing Fri 29-Aug-14 20:09:41

She has done the homework set by her English 1 to 1 tutor within one week. Shouldn't she do more to catch up in the holiday time?

antimatter Fri 29-Aug-14 23:13:09

So the extra homework is not set by school.

I think let her enjoy last few days of holiday.
Some kids are late developers and take time to get to academic stuff. I guess you are in touch with her school teachers. Do they have any concern in regards to her progress?
After all she had to settle in new school and new way of life. I would not worry much.

Let her use english recipes, make food out of them, there's a lot she can learn that way.
If she becomes a chef she will need other skills and ability to express herself and present etc....

She is only 12 - best not to decide too soon on her future anyway smile

Eastpoint Sat 30-Aug-14 05:44:12

If you spoke to my daughter who is 16 you would think she was obsessed with cooking, making her room look pretty and so on. However she just got the top grades in every subject she took at GCSE (11 all v academic) and plays an instrument at a high level. Does your niece watch tv/YouTube videos only in English? That would help her vocabulary? The FoodNetwork has lots of tv programmes she might enjoy. I hope this helps.

Lonecatwithkitten Sat 30-Aug-14 08:06:17

Cooking is a mixture of maths (weighing, calculating ratios etc), science ( it is all chemical reactions) etc.
I would consider getting her interested in molecular gastronomy to show how important other subjects are to cooking.
Running a house it is important to be able to ave grasp of budgetting and basic accounts also maths.

xing Sat 30-Aug-14 17:39:57

Lonecatwithkitten, thinking deep, I realized my worries is that she has no real love to cooking either. I say she loves cooking only because she always choose cook rather than study -- I did always ask her to do either study or cook/house chore rather than stay idle in my house. While previously she is behind academically, and addict to TV soaps. 

I struggle to find a thing that really motives her, maybe this is the real problem.

summerends Sat 30-Aug-14 18:11:17

Her English fluency will be progressing more watching English soaps than learning lists of vocabulary. I would say that a proper rest during the holiday will improve her zest for learning in the termtime. Twelve is very young. Do you have your own children? I wonder if you are not expecting too much of her at this stage. How academic is her school? Maybe you could have a chat with them about finding something that motivates her when she returns.

summerends Sat 30-Aug-14 18:16:36

Forgot to add that the 'playing' by doing drama and sport that you mention all contribute valuable skills, confidence as well as enjoyment.

antimatter Sun 31-Aug-14 09:11:57

Has she been assesed for dyslexia?

xing Mon 01-Sep-14 10:23:23

antimatter - I do have a doubt. But as she has limited English, I am not sure if she can be diagnosed in UK.

My observation is that nothing motives her. she does cooking and housework only because she has to choose between study and housework. It is not due to she really loves it.

She seems to never to be able to sit down and concentrate on something alone, always likes to be chatting with other people. Housework is better than study because she can at least walk around.

titchy Mon 01-Sep-14 15:53:05

Sounds like a fairly normal 12 year old tbh. Very unusual to find children that age passionate about a subject. Chill and be glad she has friends and is learning English - chatting with friends far more beneficial to learning the language than any tutor will be.

antimatter Mon 29-Dec-14 06:35:58

It is an old thread but I am wondering what has happened to your niece in the last few months smile

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