do any of your DC come home for lunch?

[Frodolives]

DD is asking to come home for lunch when she feels like it. She came home every day in primary school due to playground issues.

Does anyone else's children come home? How damaging has it been socially?

[rootypig]

I don't have school age children, but I was bullied at school and my tuppence is: let her come home. It's important that she can be in a safe place if she needs to (which is what I think she's asking for).

[rootypig]

(I mean emotionally safe, as much as anything)

[Frodolives]

I have no issues with her coming home. She has come home the past 2 years of primary and just has friends across after school or at weekends.
Just seeing how common it was. When i was at school, loads of ppl went home.

[wfrances]

dd came home for lunch everyday (her choice)until the 6th form.
we only live 5 mins from school
my boys never have or wanted to.

[fourcorneredcircle]

Does her secondary school allow it? Many don't because it can create problems in the local area (teenagers often aren't quite as honest about going straight home as 10 year olds!). Of my four schools two had an outright ban, one was y11 only (and then only with impeccable behaviour record) and one was prefects only. When I was at school many people did go home but not so much now.

[partialderivative]

I must confess that there were a few times when in the 6th form I did go down the pub for lunch.

(But that was back in the 70's.)

In my primary days I went home for lunch every day. I loved it, it punctuated my day.

[rootypig]

Oh ok. Thought you were concerned / opposed because of your comment about being socially damaging.

[Frodolives]

Rootypig, that comment came more from family opinions. The school do allow it, as long as parents sign planner on day they are to come home. Only Yr 10 and 11 are allowed out without parental permission.

I love having her home. There is the odd day she can't come home anyway as I have to go to work meetings

[rootypig]

Then I think it sounds lovely

[angelohsodelight]

Won't she be isolating herself from school, friends, clubs etc?

[Coddo]

I think if it's masking friendship issues you are better off sorting them out

[BackforGood]

Another here where the school doesn't allow Yrs 7,8,9 out of school at lunchtime.
I think she would be creating difficulties for herself, by isolating herself. I think it would be better to tackle whatever the issue is, rather than trying to avoid any social contact with her peers - surely that will make her stand out more.

[MillyMollyMama]

She sounds like she is not wanting to join in with what is going on and that is not a good sign at secondary school. I think it sounds rather isolating, that she has no friends, and therefore not a good idea. Are you her best friend? Secondary school is a time to leave primary school habits behind. I don't know a single child who has ever done it, even if they live next door to the school.

[WhereHas1999DissappearedToo]

DD doesn't as we live 20mins drive away from the school but she wouldn't anyway as she enjoys spending times with her friends catching up on homework etc.

I use to come home everyday for my lunch at secondary in the 70s. It was awful as I never saw my friends and I was bullied.

[heather1]

I was bullied at secondary school. I came home from lunch. It was a welcome respite in the middle of the day from school. I would let her if she wants too. Could she occasionally have a friend for lunch too? She may grow out of it.