She is at her senior school for a transition week, starting today. She was in tears last night and this morning. She is very shy, not very confident and very, very anxious - I don't know how she's going to survive this week, let alone senior school!
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ajandjjmum ·
30/06/2014 10:00
It's far worse for you worrying about her (that'd be me too!) than it is for her. She won't be on the only one, and will meet some new people. The staff will have their eyes open for anyone looking uncomfortable, and will make sure they're included.
I'm sure that when she comes in tonight, you'll have spent a day worrying for nothing! 
AtiaoftheJulii ·
30/06/2014 11:59
Hope she's having a good time - I'm sure the teachers are really geared up to making sure no one is left by themselves and helping them settle in. I dropped my youngest at her secondary taster day last week - very nervous, tummy ache, etc - and when I picked her up again she was really happy, had made a friend, everything had been AWESOME 
Lilybensmum1 ·
30/06/2014 14:15
Ah hope it went well today, I feel for you I remember how I felt starting secondary school it's such a big step and, there is not a lot us parents can do to help. No advice really just understanding how you feel.
friendlymum67 ·
30/06/2014 17:38
She hates it 
, cried the moment she got in, doesn't want to go back
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steppemum ·
30/06/2014 23:13
Oh friendly
could she tell you why?
does she have to go back tomorrow?
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friendlymum67 ·
03/07/2014 10:11
She finds it all overwhelming, she is a quite timid and shy and not at all confident. Pastoral care at the school is pretty poor to be honest.
Tues afternoon she came out of school smiling and saying she'd had a better day but yesterday afternoon she was subdued and worrying about double PE today.
She has always found saying the initial goodbye to me very hard, but I know that once she is in school, she is generally fine. She does have wobbles but she can get on with things ( and then cries on me later!)
Yesterday tho it became more complicated! I work there part time as an invigilator and I discovered that senior members of staff have decided that I have 'attachment issues' with her, they did not speak to me about this but to my line manager and in fact requested that I did not work yesterday. I was extremely angry at this assumption as they do not know me or my DD and have talked to both of us for just 5 mins!
When I finished work I went to the main office and requested to speak to a member of the Senior Management Team, this was met with some hostility as everyone was busy. I was very reasonable and said I was prepared to wait, but that I wanted to speak to someone that day.
I did speak to someone, who promised to get back to me today. This morning I went into work to be met by my line manager who told me that I wasn't required and wouldn't be for the foreseeable future, that the school had photographic evidence of my DD playing happily at breaktimes and that she couldn't say anything else to me. She was very formal, as opposed to her normal manner.
I left, came home and have sat in tears since, been trying to get an appointment with the school but being stone-walled. I have absolutely no faith in the school right now, it is clear that they don't like me working there.
It is also my birthday today
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Floggingmolly ·
03/07/2014 10:24
Have you actually been working in the school this week, I don't quite understand? 
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