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Would the head know your dcs if he walked past them in the street?

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AntiJamDidi Fri 31-Jan-14 22:20:56

My dd (14yo, yr9) and I walked past her head the other day and he stopped to speak to her, knew her name and spoke about something specific she'd done the previous week. I was quite surprised by that, seeing as there are almost 2000 pupils at her school and he can't possibly know all of them.

So do you think they head of your dc's school would know them well enough to stop and chat in the street?

pointythings Sun 02-Feb-14 20:54:55

Yes, but only because the Head teaches DD1's English set on a job share to keep her hand in on the shop floor. She's pretty inspirational though and works her socks off so even in a big school like DD's I would expect her to know a lot of the pupils.

FirConesAtXmas Sun 02-Feb-14 11:22:22

Yes, not just the Head, but also the senior leadership team, & the main receptionist. This in a school of 1000.
Plus the sixth form secretary not only knew what my older DC wanted to study at University, but also where they had applied to!

ShadowOfTheDay Sun 02-Feb-14 10:43:35

Our secondary school has 1600 pupils....

my eldest DD (13) yes - she is a child who "shines", has had personal letters written to go on her file for projects she has taken on at school over and above etc.... (school magazine, house music etc...)

my youngest DD(11) no - she is a "blend into the white noise" type, behaves well, academically middle of top set, who everybody loves but no, they do not remember her name.. which saddens me a little....

LegoCaltrops Sun 02-Feb-14 07:17:01

My old head of my primary school, now retired, still recognises me. I'm 33. There were small year groups though, I think 9 in my year.

Bit of a shock when I went to secondary school with 280-310 per year. I don't remember the head's name & don't think he would have recognised me even at the time. grin

mathanxiety Sun 02-Feb-14 07:16:07

Not a chance. The current principal barely knows all the teachers. Previous one made it her business to get to know as many people as she possibly could in a school with 3500 students. She is missed. Many of the teachers say Hi to me when we bump into each other out and about. All of them have managed to keep track of the older DCs who have gone through the school and on with their lives, and ask about them and how they're doing.

Elementary school principal (480 students) knows everyone and even many of the grandparents and other relatives, and the pets.

WorrySighWorrySigh Sun 02-Feb-14 07:01:13

I think it is probably one of the unofficial markers of a good school - just how much part of the day to day running of the school is the head?

My DCs' school is very under-performing. Much of this is down to the incompetence of the SLT.

clam Sat 01-Feb-14 22:50:39

Both my two appear to be quite high-profile, I think for good reasons (music/drama dh is a governor )
At primary school, I remember seeing the HT take ds aside on the way out one day and have a word. I was convinced he must have been naughty, but it turned out he was praising him for some writing he'd seen in one of his books when he was doing some work scrutiny.

WeAllHaveWings Sat 01-Feb-14 22:41:51

Ds(9) is in a large primary with a 4 class intake each year. I have only, said hello to the deputy head twice in passing in 5 years, once was the day he started, and second time I didn't have ds with me.

Last year they took a full school picture of over 600 pupils and had it on display on a wall. I was in for parents evening and stopped at the picture to try to find ds and she came along and asked if I could find him, and without me telling her who he was she found him in 30 seconds flat.

I told her I was surprised she knew who to look for as I'm never in school and she said in a very touching way 'I know every single one of them'.

MaureenMLove Sat 01-Feb-14 22:20:46

I'm not a head teacher but, I recognise faces in the street, but unless they are sitting in the correct seating order and wearing school uniform, I haven't got a clue what their names are! grin

The head wouldn't have a clue! She doesn't even know what room numbers are in which department!

BackforGood Sat 01-Feb-14 22:15:13

ds's head - yes (and quite possibly even would know me)
dd's head - not so sure. I'd like to think she ought to know dd1 at least (dd2 in Yr7 so probably not). Deputy would know them both though - she's excellent.
Oh, ds's school has 750ish pupils and dds' has probably about 900 counting the 6th form

(I too, am amazed at these miniature schools - I'd consider both my dcs' schools to be small for secondary)

RhondaJean Sat 01-Feb-14 22:12:47

Dd1s head would, I am sure, she has a reasonably distinctive style and often has a chat with her (in a good way) about an item of clothing she is wearing. He's a really good bloke and in a school of 1200 he seems to be genuinely involved with the kids.

AntiJamDidi Sat 01-Feb-14 22:12:26

grin Worry that's more the sort of reply I was expecting grin

WorrySighWorrySigh Sat 01-Feb-14 22:09:33

No, he cant tell his arse from his elbow so I doubt he would recognise one of his students.

HamletsSister Sat 01-Feb-14 21:59:06

Scottish Highlands - tiny, tiny school!

BirdintheWings Sat 01-Feb-14 21:57:23

I suspect the heads would recognise both DSs, who possibly stand out for all the wrong reasons.

What I find both lovely and disconcerting about DS2's school is that random staff members recognise me. I've had barely-familiar adults beaming at me and saying 'You must be so proud of him these days!' or 'How's that little sister settling in?' It takes a while to process them as 'possibly met once at parents' evening in year 8'.

1000 pupils, by the way.

AntiJamDidi Sat 01-Feb-14 18:16:57

I'm amazed that so many people say yes at a secondary school. I completely expected primary heads (dd1 has had 4 primary heads in 3 separate schools) to know every child in the school, but in most secondary schools there are over 1000 pupils, how on earth do heads know the faces of all of them? I would only expect the head to know 'exceptional' pupils, that stand out for whatever reason.

mikulkin Sat 01-Feb-14 17:50:42

Yes, absolutely!

Picturesinthefirelight Fri 31-Jan-14 22:56:07

Dds school is unusual in that its a specialist vocational boarding school with approx 12 govt funded places per year & about the same number of few paying places.

AntiJamDidi Fri 31-Jan-14 22:49:09

Where do you all live to have such tiny secondary schools? I thought the school I was on teaching practice at was small but even there they had 3 form entry so about 80-90 pupils per yeargroup. I've never been near a school with less than that.

Picturesinthefirelight Fri 31-Jan-14 22:47:16

Yes but a. It's a very small school of less than 200 pupils & b. dh teaches there.

AntiJamDidi Fri 31-Jan-14 22:46:59

weebarra sorry to hear about your cancer flowers I'm glad school have been great, you need everyone to be as supportive as possible at a time like that.

Fudge that's the sort of thing I imagine my current head would do, I don't get the impression that he would recognise all that many of our year 11s. I may be doing him a disservice though as I don't have all that much to do with him.

Starballbunny Fri 31-Jan-14 22:43:24

ops 1.5 days (2 in Y8)

Starballbunny Fri 31-Jan-14 22:41:39

Our previous HT would know DD1, because she sings in every school concert and she's seen and spoken to us at open days and various events.

I don't know if the acting head (who hasn't been at concerts and isn't as talkative) knows either DD. She may remember DD2 as she had to ask permission to fundraise in school.

our deputy HT (also 150 DCs a year plus 6 form) knew everyone. He could name all the first years in two weeks (we were only on main site 2.5 days a week!!)

weebarra Fri 31-Jan-14 22:36:13

Head, no. Depute head, absolutely. DS1 dragged her across the playground to show her how much his baby sister had grown! I have cancer and school have been great.

AFingerofFudge Fri 31-Jan-14 22:35:18

Can I tell you a funny story? please? indulge me
When I was in 5th (year 11) there was a presentation about a residential trip we were going on given by a couple of people who worked there. I was helping them load their stuff into the car when the Headteacher of my school came along and chatted to them about their work. Then he turned to me and said "And what's your job there?" shock grin

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