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New Year 7 Parent Warning

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Ilovegeorgeclooney · 03/09/2013 20:06

Our 7's started today. We are a 'Gum Free School' and this is emphasized in the prospectus, Open Evening, school tours, notices everywhere and during transition days and evenings. In addition to this every new pupil had an interview with a member of SMT last term with their parents and both had to sign a behaviour contract.

Today I taught a class for the first time and a boy came in chewing. With it being their first day I told him to put it in the bin and give me his packet of gum. I explained, as the whole class said their tutors had explained, that normally this would be a 10min DT at Lunch but as it was his first day I would give him one chance. To which he replied "my mum's a dentist and she says I have to chew gum after I eat". I pointed out he was at a GFS and started the lesson.

10 minutes later I saw him take gum out of his pencilcase and go to put it in his mouth. Naturally I intervened and this time issued a DT( never had to do this on the first day before!). He was the only pupil in DT.

After school I get a furious call from his mum. I had humiliated and upset him and she wanted a public apology and his gum back. I explained that the gum was available for him to collect at reception as he left and that he was lucky not to get an additional 30 min for disrespect. She then ranted about the school policy and said she would complain to the LA.

I just wanted to say if you choose to send your child to a school with a clear policy on an issue it is not helpful to react in this way. He was a real MLS but she had done he a great disservice by encouraging him to break clear rules.

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friday16 · 03/09/2013 20:12

MLS?

But it's not going to end well, is it? She may as well find a new school, because that's where it's going to end up.

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Ilovegeorgeclooney · 03/09/2013 20:17

Mummy's Little Soldier!

No she won't want another school because we are full with a waiting list and the only schools in the city that have places have them for a reason. Plus his half siblings have all attended and achieved outstanding results so I think dad might have an objection.

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lljkk · 03/09/2013 20:19

yanbu !!

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Iamnotminterested · 03/09/2013 20:22

Agree the child and mother were both completely out of order but can't help thinking you may have just posted yourself out of a job, OP.

BTW a cube of cheese is an effective PH neutraliser after eating and a lot quicker than a pack of gum.

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runningonwillpower · 03/09/2013 20:24

I think it's called solipsism.

They think the world revolves around them.

I just hope your head backs you up.

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meditrina · 03/09/2013 20:26

Does everyone in your area get their first choice school, then?

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Ilovegeorgeclooney · 03/09/2013 20:26

Changed a few key details, cunning as a fox!

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wannabestressfree · 03/09/2013 20:48

I school I teach at has a very firm and strict set of rules that are carefully explained and explained again to parents
We had a young lady who refused to remove her caked on make up several times in a row, refused isolation and was sent home. Mother than came in to rant.....
The head suggests that would be wise to find another school.
I like that stance.....

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Capitola · 03/09/2013 20:52

Ridiculous parent.

I think it should be a GFW.

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Ilovegeorgeclooney · 03/09/2013 21:16

My HT is a draw a line in the sand sort of guy so no doubt about that. No we have a long list of pupils wanting to come to us but the nearest school was under 40% E and M so there are places galore!

I just feel that when your child starts a new school you need to ensure he settles down well. If it has been my DS I would have just told him to remember the feeling next time he feels like chewing!

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 03/09/2013 21:26

We have a GFH as I have a very strong aversion to people chewing gum in my presence, to the point where it's approaching a mild phobia. It makes me feel physically ill.

If my children receive consequences or sanctions, I always try to back the teaching staff 100%. My children have completed 26 school years between them, and there has only been one occasion when I have questioned a punishment one of them has been given (I didn't question it in front of the child but spoke to the teacher privately. She admitted that she had misused the school's behaviour guidelines and she apologised).

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missinglalaland · 04/09/2013 18:00

You are right. The mother is wrong. On many, many levels.

I hope you are backed up by your head.

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Summerhasloaded · 04/09/2013 18:10

My ds' school has a gum free rule, but on the advice of his occupational therapist, staff positively encourage and remind him to chew gum.

Would you be issuing him detention too?

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noblegiraffe · 04/09/2013 20:10

Bit of a difference there, Summer. Hmm

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choccyp1g · 04/09/2013 21:58

I'd never heard of a Gum Free School before, but thnink it's a brilliant idea.
I would expect children to be forbidden from chewing in lessons in any case.
Easy solution for MLS (great acronym). Don't eat except at lunchtime. Clean teeth with a toothbrush afterwards. Problem solved.

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