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Do you ask them to text you when they've arrived?

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hardboiled Fri 19-Jul-13 11:27:05

Do you ask your Year 7 DS/DD to send you a text saying he/she has arrived safely to school? And a text saying he/she is leaving?

Primary school never calls if a child has not turned up, so if anything ever happened to a Y6 on the way to school the parent would never know. What about in secondary?

Or is it too "helicoptery"...confused

Yonihadtoask Wed 24-Jul-13 14:56:23

If DS got his mobile phone out at school to text me he would have it confiscated.

New rules are the phones have to stay in their lockers all day. Not even switched off in their bags/blazer pockets. (DS breaks the rules though and has it in his pocket, rebel!)

louisea Wed 24-Jul-13 12:18:29

Our secondary school doesn't phone but will send a message a few days later stating that such & such sessions were missed and asking for an explanation.

Primary school calls by 9.30.

mumeeee Wed 24-Jul-13 10:27:43

DEs not CDs smile

mumeeee Wed 24-Jul-13 10:27:15

Well my CDs are alI in their 20s now and didn't have mobiles in year 7. But if they did I wouldn't have expected me to text me. The school phoned if they didn't turn up.

busymummy3 Tue 23-Jul-13 23:08:20

No please don't ask your child to do this you are thinking of yourself and your feelings of anxiety not your child . Let him or her move into the big world of secondary without you hovering around in the background.
Most schools have strict policies around mobiles anyway eg ours have to be put in locker for the school day so mine don't even bother taking theirs to school.

Clary Tue 23-Jul-13 20:28:07

I work in a secondary school and if a student fails to turn up without reason given (eg known medical apt/parent phones to say they are sick) the office calls all available numbers to find out what's wrong.

To answer your question OP, no, never. But then we live 2 mins walk away. But really it sounds like another thing to worry about to me.

2rebecca Mon 22-Jul-13 12:32:10

No, sounds like overanxious parenting to me. I never had to phone my mum if I didn't arrive. Mobile phones just seem to create extra anxiety for some people and jobs to do for their kids.

Yonihadtoask Mon 22-Jul-13 09:03:39


DS has only ever text me if there is a problem getting home and will be late waiting for the next bus (one per hour!) Or wants me to pick him up.

If students do not get a mark at registration then we get a text from school, shortly after 9.00 am.

curlew Mon 22-Jul-13 09:00:11

Not weird for school to text if the child isn't there. Weird to insist on child texting after the first week or so. Mind you, dd texted me for most of her first term- long after I had got my head round it- I think she needed to reassure herself that she had got there safely!

valiumredhead Sun 21-Jul-13 20:01:15

As not ad

valiumredhead Sun 21-Jul-13 19:54:51

Clearly it's not 'weird' seeing as some schools have this in place ad matter of coursehmm

xylem8 Sun 21-Jul-13 18:25:33


DSs text me if they're going to be very late, but they expect me to do the same so that's fair. If they didn't get to school I'd get a call from the office chasing them up - schools tend to be quite hot on attendance.

Charlie01234 Sun 21-Jul-13 17:48:48

I asked my son to text me when he got on the bus - big change for a parent who has been walking their child to school to suddenly just let them out of the door to walk to the bus imo. Might make me helicoptery but don't care - it only lasted a few weeks by the way until I got my head round it! Do what you feel comfortable with.

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 21-Jul-13 17:36:09

No. Too helicoptery. I would assume they had got to where they were going unless I heard to the contrary.

valiumredhead Sun 21-Jul-13 17:33:21

The schools here text or email if children don't register do you know within about 15 mins if they aren't at school. I thought this was standard now!

RussianBlu Sun 21-Jul-13 17:31:40

Secondary schools don't always get around to calling you if your child doesn't turn up. I speak from experience.

mrsminiverscharlady Sat 20-Jul-13 18:07:12

We can check online to see if they've been marked present at registration, but I think school would tell us pretty quickly if they hadn't arrived.

I do expect ds to text when he arrives home as I'm at work. On one occasion I got a text that said 'home safely'. I phoned him and said 'that text was interesting. Because I'm at home and you're not' shock grin Silly boy was still on the bus and just wanted to 'save time' hmm

FannyMcNally Sat 20-Jul-13 16:52:31

But unless you have a tracking device, he could be anywhere when he texts grin

pointythings Sat 20-Jul-13 16:46:08

We did it for the first week of Yr7, mainly for DD1's peace of mind, but after that - no. She is still alive at the end of Yr7, I'm pleased to report.

Biscuitsneeded Sat 20-Jul-13 13:55:10

No, why on earth would they not appear at school, unless they have a track record of absconding?? I would always assume they did unless school phoned to say otherwise... If you make them text you to say they've arrived and then one day they forget, you'll panic! I think kids at secondary school need to be trusted to be able to move from home to school without constant checking!!

Aquamildred Sat 20-Jul-13 13:44:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mummytime Sat 20-Jul-13 13:41:58

My DCs school is pretty hot now on texting to tell you if they aren't there. But it is just one of the scary aspects of secondary school, that you say bye to them and don't see them for a long time.
How far do they have to travel? Are they with lots of other students?
If they are travelling with others then the others are usually pretty good at looking after each other. DD got stung by a wasp on the way to school, her walking companions got her first aid and helped her get to school, where she was promptly sent home (she was stung on the foot and it was swelling up).

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 13:30:58

Nope the school will contact me if they dont turn up. They do have a phone in case of emergencies, it was handy when snow meant buses werent running so ds1 let me know he was walking home.

curlew Sat 20-Jul-13 13:22:54

Nope. Helicoptery.

I used to worry more if my year 7s texted me- it usually meant that they were feeling friendless and lonely.

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