GCSE options(42 Posts)
My daughter has chosen her GCSE options a few weeks back and i'm sure alot of you would agree that it is very stressful but i'm aware there is still time to change them. She picked off the first three she wanted straight off and was happy with them with one slot she was unsure of, However she is really indecisive, She wanted to take both History and geography but she didn't want to much work as one of her options is Art, She also has a language to add to the EBAC. She is having trouble coming to terms with what to pick and is finding whatever she picks she will regret, normally i would say she would get over it however this has been going on for weeks, what should i do?
I think it is sometimes Pottering, depending on the school and the subject. Check with your school if it might affect choices ?
Sorry but IT at our school is a waste of time according to my DDs. They have to do it as a compulsory subject. It is NOT Computing - which would be a good subject and very much help them if they wished to have a career in computing. Could your DD do the 3 sciences rather than double? Also Art is an awful lot of work that is made worse if your daughter is a perfectionist - I have just spent 2 years living through an Art GCSE!
My dd also wanted to do both and she dropped the foreign language. Ebac has been phased out now anyway so isn't really an issue. I will try and teach her a language at home.
History is a lot of work but - and it is a big but - it will provide her with excellent analytical skills and I personally think she will find it a lot more useful in supporting her desire to to psychology, than IT.
She doesn't want to study a psychology degree so to speak she just wants to study it at A-Level and take it from there, She is still hopelessly confused and wants to make sure she picks the right options, However when she comes to a decision we find our self straight back to square one because when she hears people say bad things about her subjects she gets really upset - I've told her not everyone likes the same subjects as you for example some people hate Art and cant wait to drop it, but i think because it was her last option - which she had no idea what to pick, shes getting abit het up over it plus it doesn't help that she is extremely sensitive anyway.
Perhaps you need to sit with her and look at the long view now - get her to look at careers and the kinds of jobs that she could do, see if she can identify a 'dream job' and a 'real job'. I have been discussing it with mine as she is indecisive like yours, and it's helping her to visualise the end result. Once that is in sight it might be easier for her to decide. If she can't you might have to do it for her.
Yeah maybe your right, she is aware of realistic jobs - she doesn't want to be a Doctor or an Artist, Basically to cut it bluntly she don't want to think shes made a mistake or regret her decision as you only choose your GCSEs once - I've told her what anybody else would, it's one subject it isn't going to ruin your life, It's more important actually getting the grades. God knows what she would do if she didn't pass I'm sure it will pass over eventually and she will come to a decision but at this point in time i don't think it will.
Just thinking it's the first big(ish) decision they've been asked to make isn't it ? So, if she's a sensitive soul it may have made her aware of how our choices do map out our lives in a way, and that's a pretty big thing to grapple with/realise.
So, perhaps trying to help her be calm about it and make it less of a big deal may help ? As you say the choice of her third subject is unlikely to make a huge difference to the path her life takes at this point.
So, is she thinking of changing anything or sticking to what she decided when she gave the form in? Geography? German ? Art ? & IT ?
Is that right (for now !)?
hellsbells99 - it depends on the actual qualification being studied for IT; the GCSE is very relevant and up to date, whereas the OCR is not as good for the more academic students. IT has never pretended to be computing and is a very different subject which no matter what role you have later in life you will use the skills learnt and the analytical development you gain.
But then again, as my DS said the same about maths I am sure that you don't fully think that subject/options advice for someone should be solely based on your DD's thoughts about one subject/qualification at one school
Actually what you just mentioned could be part of the reason she is so indecisive, I think what you have just said is true - making the first big decision, picking her GCSEs is a way of growing up and maybe she is afraid. She is sticking with her options for the time being - however she is trying to think about it taking in her own preferences rather than what shes reading on the internet or what her friends are saying so Thank you. I'm not sure if it will be any help and she will probably still worry but i think this has given her a better understanding.
The IT qualification the school offers is the OCR course - This is another reason she is upset.
Whoops, X post with your second !
Hi cricketballs. The qualification they do is OCR and they haven't learnt anything that they hadn't previously done in years 7,8 and 9. They said the work in IT in years 10 and 11 is just repeating what they already know. They have been bored and feel they have wasted their time. Maths certainly isn't a waste of time - although DD2 cannot understand why she has to do English at GCSE as "I can write in English and read so what's the point!" ......maybe she is at school with your DS
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