Sexual exploitation of pre teens in school

[Shokked]

I have name changed for this in case anyone recognises the school.

I have obviously heard about the exploitation of girls and young women but thought it was generally gang related or happened on council estates etc.

My DD is at a mixed comp in quite a nice area. She told me yesterday that X who is in year 8 has allegedly been giving blow jobs to boys in her class. I thought it was just gossip, but from what DD says it has the ring of truth about it. This sort of gossip is not common at the school and one of the boys concerned gave a very detailed account about circumstances, place etc. DD was absolutely shocked.

I know X's family vaguely via mutual friends, very affluent middle class family, lovely home, spoil the kids rotten, her mum is a high flier, they had a nanny etc.

I am not sure if I should say something to the school. I also know that an incident happened at the school a few years ago when a young girl was forced to give blow jobs in the toilets. The boy concerned was expelled, but the school did not call the police.

I don't want to just ignore it.

[sandyballs]

Def speak to school, thats awful, so young. Sadly I'm not that shocked, my year 7 DD has had issues with boys in her year with highly inappropriate language and gestures directly aimed at her. Thankfully school are taking it very seriously.

[pinkbluepink]

Phone the school and ask to speak to or make an appointment with the Child Protection Officer

[Shokked]

Thank you both for your comments. Sandy sorry to here about your DD's experience. Pink, I know who has the role I will ring her tomorrow.

[stitch]

I was told by a much younger friend that if girls didnt give their male friends, (not boyfriends, just friends) blowjobs, they were called frigid. the conversation happened in the context of him telling me not to let my kids go to parties with alcohol there. I was beyond traumatised as I knew that he wouldnt be making this stuff up.
get in touch with someone, school, or childline.

[tinytalker]

I too have been shocked at the sexualisation of pre-teens at my kid's mixed comp. Boys especially seem to have a twisted image of what constitutes a relationship. There has been a lot about this in the press today regarding the affects of porn on young teens and my kids have told me some horror stories too and we are in a 'good' area and the school is 'outstanding'.
Definitely contact the Child protection officer at the school in case the girls are being threatened/bullied.
Take a look at this charity www.teenboundaries.co.uk
They run INSET for teachers and workshops for kids on this which I think should be compulsory for all school children. I'm hoping to persuade our school to run a course.

[steppemum]

was talking to a friend the other day, her dd is 16, and she was saying that many of the girls in her dds class have been sexually active for several years. They started with oral sex/blow jobs, and have moved on. I was shocked it was so young, and also shocked that blow jobs were deemed to be 'not sex' somehow and were so casually exchanged