Grafter, grafting has a new meaning

[Lidlfix]

DD3's parent's night I (innocently) said I know she'll do her best she's a real grafter. Teacher nods in agreement. DD scarlet and choking in embarrassment.

Apparently it means flirting, totally putting an effort in to impress object of desires!

A teacher myself I will have to change my repertoire of phrases . Grafting or grafter has always been my go to expression for a hard working pupil who achieves well due to sheer effort rather than a flair for subject.

Who knew? And what else has completely changed meaning that I might shame my DDs and self with?

[Groovee]

I never knew that 😳

[girlelephant]

😂 New meaning to me!

[Floggingmolly]

Who's decided it has a new meaning? I've never heard of your dd's version.

[tobecontinued2000]

I've not heard of this new meaning.

[Summerisdone]

It's not necessarily a new meaning, just used slightly different by teens right now. It still means a hard worker but they use it purely just to mean 'work hard at pulling/flirting with someone'

[iamapixiebutnotaniceone]

I've heard it used lately to describe a burglar or thief.

[Lidlfix]

Still not as bad as Netflix and chill. I now know this has little to do with watching a whole season of Gray's Anatomy - to my cost.

Apparently teen meaning of graft/er/ing was discussed on the radio recently. Very generational it seems.

What else should I know about?

[LunaLoveg00d]

More shocked that you took DD to her parents evening - we never do!

[Lidlfix]

Very much the done thing at her school and the secondary I teach in. Never at primary- that waited outside or stayed at home if too young.

Social event for DD and pals but she did hide my leopard print boots to prevent me wearing them. Seems my potential to embarrass knows no bounds!

[LunaLoveg00d]

Really? There were some kids at our Secondary parents evening but they waited at a distance while parents spoke with the teacher. I always thought teachers could be more honest when the child under discussion isn't in front of them.

[FortyFacedFuckers]

I knew this (proud) doesn't admit it's because I watch so much shit reality tv

[WankersHacksandThieves]

I didn't know about grafting, but my DSs have been at every parents night with us in the meeting since nursery school, though to be fair I think they wandered away to the building corner uninterested in what was being said.

[prettybird]

Dh and I have never taken ds but it's probably about a 50:50 split between those parents that go to parents' evenings with their kids and those that don't.

There's no pressure either way.

[howabout]

Grafter meaning to work hard so not much of a stretch to be the same as being too try hard in a relationship context surely? Don't think the meaning is exclusive, although the concept of any teenager I know (including my own 2) grafting at anything is a bit of a stretch.

[Floggingmolly]

Well it used to be exclusive, till someone decided to extend it's meaning to something with only a very tenuous connection.
Unlike sick... I'm old enough to remember when sick was a bad thing.

[Nospringflower]

My children say grafting for something that sounds like what we would have calked chatting up.

They also say patching which I think is for ignoring eg someone who doesnt reply to your text has patched you.

[howabout]

Mine use patching to mean the same as blanking.

[LinghamStyle]

For me, in Scotland, grafting = working hard. Also known as knocking your pan in

In West Yorkshire, grafting = working hard to obtain money via illegal means.

I've not heard this new one yet! My DC are not teens though. DD1 has started using patching, and for some reason it really annoys me. I think the reason might be that I'm getting old

[FutureMrsRanj]

Avid reality tv watcher here, grafting does indeed seem to mean putting a lot of hard work into getting someone to agree to shag you

[WankersHacksandThieves]

knocking your pan in :o

I've not heard that for years! I think it was generally used during parental rants at teenagers "here am ah, knockin' ma pan in while you are sitting on your lazy arse...could you no have at least shoved the kettle on?"

[Isadora2007]

Yep. Scottish here too and dd16 was telling me "I was totally grafting me at Cs party"... I asked what grafting her meant and she said he was working very hard to get her attention and get her to kiss him (get with him)
So yeah a grafter isn't an innocent term to her now...

[LinghamStyle]

Wankers I recently revived it to use on my weans

[WankersHacksandThieves]

Lingham I might try that next week since i'll be "knocking my pan in" at work whilst DH and DC are on holiday!

[FreshStart2017]

I've just googled Netflix and chill , well every day is a school day on here!

[Groovee]

Asked Dd and she said it would be trying to pull someone.