As the title says really. I am 28 and I have never worked. I have been a SAHP for 8 years after DS1 was unexpectedly born at 26 weeks. I was only 19 and was going to go back to work or college full time as soon as he was old enough to go to nursery (so very young...3 months old I was planning, had he of been healthy), but he was in hospital for 4 months, came home oxygen dependent, then I developed severe PND with psychosis..he got diagnosed with growth problems at 2 and I became an obsessive wreck..then he was diagnosed with Autism at 3 while I was pregnant with DS2. Then got Depression again. Thankfully DS2 healthy and full term. Put him in childminders at age 1 while DS1 was at school so I could job search in peace. Just 2 months after that I became ill with Lymphoma at 24 (yes, that's cancer at 24!). I was pregnant with DS3 at the time.
A whirlwind of treatment while pregnant followed. Sadly we lost DS3 at 36 weeks. Then I needed a stem cell/bone marrow transplant to beat this lymphoma that just wouldn't go away.
Im two years on from that now and both DSs are in school. I'm in menopause at 28 which causes some issues for me..body feels old before my time! I get tired, depressed, ache, dizzy, hot flashes left right and centre on HRT and i feel like just parenting is bloody exhausting and I dont even work. I feel like I'm not contributing to society. I used to be young and fit and really enjoyed being a SAHP. Now I don't enjoy and relish it like I used to. I love my DSs so much but I wish i could give them more. Luckily my DH works full time to support us but he is knackered so I take on the childcare and house stuff. I wish I could sort my pathetic self out and get a bloody job like everyone else
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Winecurestiredness · 03/01/2021 21:17
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