Hi everyone. My kids are 2.5 and 1.5 and I'm a SAHM but I'm really struggling at the minute. I have been for some time if I'm being honest. I've found it really tough after my second child who was a complete surprise! Took me 8 years to have my first child and two losses before him, one was an ectopic pregnancy and I lost one of my tubes along with having pcos and infertility so was told my chances of conceiving were 20%.
But I was blessed to fall pregnant 2 years with my gorgeous boy and when he was 17 wks old I found out I was expecting again and it hit me hard. I was shocked and scared to find out I was becoming a mum again so soon after having my first and just learning how to be a mum.
Anyway fast forward to now my daughter is 1.5 and is really hard work.
I'm struggling to find ways to interact with both kids at the one time. For instance even colouring in is hard my daughter always puts stuff in her mouth and once I turn for a second to deal with her my son is drawing all over the walls and doors. I find it really difficult to stuff together with them.
Not only that I'm struggling with giving them all the attention I can along with cleaning up,housework,preparing and cooking meals etc then my partner comes home and my attention has to go to him once the kids are in bed. I feel like I've no freedom. I absolutely love my children to the moon and back but get so frustrated at times with them and inm think its because I'm no longer the person I was before I gave birth to them. All my time & energy goes to the kids and then my partner. I get so annoyed with him. He comes home from work, gets his dinner handed to him. Spend about 15 min with the kids then sits his arse down in the kitchen to watch TV. Once the kids are in bed ill spend most my time up and down the stairs to our daughter as she's still not a great sleeper. I find myself getting so worked up a lot of the time because I feel like I may as well be a single mother. Part of me really wants to go back to work yet I know I can't because he doesn't want anyone else to look after the kids. My son can start nursery this year. Tried to have the conversation with my husband about sending him to school (not because I want rid of him but because I know he'll thrive) and I know he'll make friends and have a fantastic time. It'll break my heart when he goes to nursery but I know how happy he'll but my husband shot me down and refused to have the conversation about nursery and told me he's not going until next year when he'll be 4. He won't even listen to me that we need to think about how good it would be for our child.
I'm not sure if being a SAHM is my problem or the fact that I've had kids with the wrong man. I feel totally isolated. I just want to tell someone how unhappy I am and why and just someone to give me a hug and tell me I'm doing a good job.
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littlerayofsunshine0 · 28/07/2020 21:24
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