I'm not really sure where to start....
Me and DP are from different countries and we have a 12 month old DD. I'm due our second baby in 4 weeks time.
Last year we set in motion the process to move to his country temporarily for 2 years and rent out our home. It was a very stressful time moving to a different country at the other side of the would in March this year in the midst of covid-19 whilst pregnant.
I've been in DPs country for 3 months. DP is working and I'm a stay at home mum now for 2 years. I have taken 2 years maternity leave, followed by a career break with my job.
I'm on my own most of the time, the days are very long and im really homesick. I feel very lonely and isolated.
My DD was the first grandchild in my family and I feel so guilty that I've taken her away from them. I had an amazing support network back home and someone in my family was always off during the week to do something with. My friends had similar aged babies too.
Here DP gets up early for work so some days I don't speak to any other adults until he gets back from work. I can't Skype friends and family much due to the time difference and plus it makes me miss them more and wish I was back home.
I try to keep busy and I'm a very active person so most days me and DD go for walks or to the park.
Im trying to do lots with DD whilst it's just me and her before baby arrives next month. I don't know how I'm going to cope having 2 kids 13 months apart. I've made efforts to meet new mum friends by going to swim sessions and playgroups but it's all polite chat with other mums so I don't really have any friends. Once baby arrives I know I'm going to feel even more isolated and won't be leaving the house much.
DPs family are close by but they don't really know DD and her routine etc. They work too and I would feel anxious leaving DD with them even though I know she will be fine. I'm dreading the birth of this baby as I don't want to leave DD. It's just been me and her for so long, I get up in the night with her, I'm with her during the day, I make her meals, I take her out. DP would probably struggle on his own for a day with her. Ive wrote down her routine for when I go into labour but worry she won't know where I am or DPs family do things differently.
I feel guilty on DD for not having more time with her before baby arrives and that we will just be stuck indoors once baby arrives. I feel guilty on new baby as I felt so excited for DD and don't know how I could ever love this baby as much as her. I feel guilty for the way I'm feeling and can't talk to DP about it as he is loving being in his home country for a few years and works hard for his family.
My family were hoping to come out and visit but again with covid I'm not sure they will be able to. Some days I tell myself to man up and make the most of the opportunity and other days I feel really sad, teary and like I've lost myself. I know things are going to get even harder in a months time when baby arrives.
I guess I just needed to write down how I'm feeling.
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Nel246 · 27/06/2020 02:14
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