I have five children, my first four are aged between 10 and 14. I also have an eight month old son who is just the most contented, lovely little man that we all dote on.
Since having him however, I have gradually fallen into a bit of a slump. We moved to the country not long after he was born and it’s proper winter out here with lots of snow and long dark nights. As a result, I’ve become a real hermit, most days I am just in pyjamas as there doesn’t seem to be any point getting dressed. I spend my days around the babies routine and watching tv shows. I do little bits and pieces of housework but just enough to keep on top of it.
Honestly my whole life has become all about my baby and I just am not interested in anything else. I am on antidepressants as I am prone to anxiety and depression and lately I have started thinking that if I didn’t have my baby, I probably wouldn’t even bother getting out of bed.
Now I know this might mean I could be experiencing a form of PND, but I love my baby to absolute pieces and am so happy with him, it’s the rest of my life that makes me miserable.
There is very much an element of ‘what’s the point’ going on. What’s the point in getting dressed if I am just at home all day long? I don’t really have an appetite, I eat because my stomach starts hurting but I don’t actually feel hungry, so most days I just have one meal. I have absolutely zero sex drive though I love my husband and do find him attractive, I just don’t want to have sex.
Deep down I know none of this is okay and I’m frightened. I’m hoping this will pass as my baby gets older and more independent. I had a traumatic birth with him, I was expecting a walk in the park like my other four but it was a back to back labour with no pain relief and he had the cord wrapped around his neck twice and so tight it bruised his neck. I couldn’t push him out so the registrar had to use ventouse and his shoulders got stuck, then she had to cut the cord from around his neck before his body was born so there was lots of panic and shouting at me to push harder etc. He didn’t cry for about five minutes and I was completely terrified.
I think this is why 8 months on, I have just stopped doing anything else other than care for him and be near him at all times.
It’s not healthy and I don’t know what to do. Can anyone relate and help me?
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PurpleThistles84 · 10/03/2020 09:22
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