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I miss my husband :(

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SwishswishBiTCH Wed 11-Oct-17 23:03:30

Just that really. Just need to vent I guess. Im a SAHP for now we have a 6 week old and a 2.6 year old boys and they're fab grin I'm studying midwifery through learn direct so do all my course work at home. DH works night shifts, and I'm so lonely on a night.

He starts at 10PM finishes at 6AM Sunday-Fridau. Sleeps from about 11.00 -6.30 then he sets off at 8.45. he is at home 2 nights a week sad I barely see him for 6 hours a day. When i do see him we're rushed off our feet with looking after the kids, When kids are in bed we only get 1 1/2 hour together.

Don't get me wrong I love my life and my family dearly. I wouldn't change them for the world but it's so exhausting doing it all on my own. School trips, house cleaning, cooking, EBF.

He's tried and tried since November 2016 for a days transfer, but they say it's not available yet. In November they said 6 month's max. It's been 11 month's and still the same envy

I know I shouldn't be complaining. It's a FT job. Fantastic pay. And he is a fantastic worker and I'm very happy he brings money in, but by gosh is it lonely sadsad

Anyone else need to just VENT envysad

Ohwell14 Wed 11-Oct-17 23:07:04

Same here baby is 3 weeks. Dh back in work 3pm til midnight sometimes 1am. By the time he gets in I'm exhausted so he does the night feeds and then I get up about 6am with baby. So dh spends the morning catching up on sleep.
So we get about 3 hours together and most of that time is spent running errands as I don't drive (he does) and we live in an area that doesn't have access to public transport so it is difficult for me to get out and about on my own.
Rant over
But I am blessed that he is am amazing father and will do anything for us when he is here grin

MyOtherProfile Wed 11-Oct-17 23:09:40

I barely see him for 6 hours a day
Not sure most couples see each other any more than that unless you're counting the time asleep. My dh comes home at 6.30 and we go to bed about 10.30 so that's 4 hours. Plus about an hour in the morning altho not much of that is spent on the same floor of the house as each other.

SwishswishBiTCH Wed 11-Oct-17 23:17:10

I see him 2 hours 45 minutes a day. It's ridiculous..

SwishswishBiTCH Wed 11-Oct-17 23:19:28

ohwell it's horrible isn't it. It makes it worse because I end through the night and day so he can't help out with night feeds. He dies help out as much as possible though the dearstar will leave me in bed in morning and sort the 2.6 year old out then go to bed. Will put him in bath and bed. He does try..

Mumof41987 Wed 11-Oct-17 23:41:24

You see your dh far more than I see mine ! Try going 6 months ! Get a grip

FastWindow Wed 11-Oct-17 23:44:52

It gets better. Children grow up and then you wish for the younger days...

But it could be a hundred million times worse.

Count your blessings, for you sound like you have many.

SwishswishBiTCH Wed 11-Oct-17 23:48:07

mumof4 sorry if you don't like my post no need to comment. Get a grip gringrin obviously there's people worse off. Make your own post about it. confusedhmm

SwishswishBiTCH Wed 11-Oct-17 23:51:17

fastwindow thankyou, I know it will get easier. I love my life I really do. And I'm blessed with what I have. It just gets lonely from time to time. Im only 20, all my family have moved 75 miles away and I live in my DH hometown. So there's no one here, except MIL which is a whole other thread

Hence the vent as there's no one to do it to grin

notangelinajolie Wed 11-Oct-17 23:52:10

Aw I know exactly how you feel. My DH worked these hours for 3 years and in that time I had 2 babies. It's lonely I know but it won't be forever and I bet he's thinking of you too. Have some flowers from me flowers

HughLauriesStubble Wed 11-Oct-17 23:56:52

Congrats on the baby smile I think most couples are in a similar situation op, just that they go to bed together whereas your dh goes to work. At least your dh gets to see the kids for more time during the day than most working parents.

Personally, I always complain when dh works really long hours, but he had a few months off over the summer and drove me barmy getting under my feet hmm

user1471601513 Thu 12-Oct-17 00:10:04

Been married 12 years, we were both shift workers for most of it. I think it's the reason we've lasted, no time to fight!

MyOtherProfile Thu 12-Oct-17 13:04:00

Sounds to me like you need to make some friends. Have you tried going to some baby groups or activities?

Gannetseatfish Sun 03-Dec-17 21:11:20

Totally sympathise! Especially at night. My DP is here but in the other room with our toddler whose not a great sleeper and I'm in with the baby. I feel lonely and they are in the same house! Our situation is of our own making I know but I still understand what you're saying x

justme93 Mon 04-Dec-17 19:15:55

I see my husband every 2-3 months for a weekend .. the nights are long and lonely. 😐

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