First baby on the way. Instead of me taking 1 year maternity leave, dh and i have decided to split. Both will be part time, so 8 weeks after birth I will go to work 2.5 days a week.
Money isn't an issue. It's just that being equal in our relationship is really important to us. So we decided this was the best way to keep the healthy balance in our lives. Dh is over the moon, says he always wanted to be a hands on dad. I trust him 100 percent to be an excellent parent.
But if you could go back and do it all again, and had the luxury of choice, what would you do? Do you wish you had hung on to your career? Or do you wish you had spent more time with your babies when they were young?
Some people say I'm being naiive about how I'm going to feel. I don't really want to get into this discussion with other people I know cause they will probably end up feeling attacked. E.g. i say I want my dh to have a fair chance to be involved and bond, friend A feels criticised because her dh works away all weekend and never sees child.
But I would like to really get some opinions and maybe it really is better from strangers after fishing out trolls
Am I being realistic?
How hard is it really?
If you could go back and do it all again, what would you choose?
(Please be honest but kind, I didn't post in aibu. And this isn't a breastfeeding thread).
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Neoflex · 13/08/2017 08:56
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