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Should I finish work?

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Pursuitofhappiness Mon 14-Dec-15 19:52:16

Literally what it says on the tin! I'm a teacher, my son is 3 and starting school in Sept. I really want to pick him up and drop him off. Furthermore, I'd love to be able to get involved in the wider life of the school. What're your thoughts? I'd love to hear them-I'm stuck!

LittlestLightOnTheTree Mon 14-Dec-15 19:58:30

What are your partners views?

Pursuitofhappiness Mon 14-Dec-15 19:59:54

He'd really like me to finish, happy to support me. I'd plan to tutor at home.

winterswan Mon 14-Dec-15 20:01:12

I wouldn't ...

StealthPolarBear Mon 14-Dec-15 20:06:02

Well how much do you like your job? Do uou have a partner? Bills to pay?

NickyEds Mon 14-Dec-15 22:13:18

I would...I did! Well not teaching but I'm a SAHM and I don't want to work outside school hours for many years (my children are still very young). I've got friends with slightly older children who say that childcare just gets harder and harder, despite the prevalent idea that it's easier when they start school. If it's something you want to do and your partner is supportive then why not?

rollonthesummer Mon 14-Dec-15 22:15:08

Surely it depends on whether you can afford to live without your salary?

spaceyboo Mon 14-Dec-15 22:16:06

My sister in law is a teacher and works key time - that allows her to make drop offs and pick ups, as well as join school governors etc. You don't have to give up work completely unless of course you want to.

Duckdeamon Mon 14-Dec-15 22:16:16

Are you married? If not, being a SAHP is taking a big financial risk.

Would PT work be an option?

As a teacher you get most of the holidays with the DC, which is actually a big chunk of the year.

Philoslothy Mon 14-Dec-15 22:18:49

I was a teacher who stopped work to be at home. It was the best decision I have ever made.

superbfairywren Tue 15-Dec-15 06:39:33

It's an entirely personal decision. Only you know whether you want to, you have to work out what your priorities are and thinking about the future whether it will be difficult to get back into a job you would like.
I think it would be so lovely to drop your kids off at school and pick up again to have that time together but is it a worthwhile drop to lose your salary entirely? Will you need to take a different job to fit in school hours(I have found part time jobs which actually pay well to be scarce where I am)? Like a pp said, you currently have all the school holidays which is a wonderful thing, if you had to take a different pt job in future you likely wouldn't have that.
I am a sahm but I have a one year old, I will likely have to go back to work to some extent in the next two years but would love to be off until she goes to school. Then I think I will have to work probably ft again to find a job that pays enough but would ideally work school hours so I could do drop off etc.

NickyEds Tue 15-Dec-15 12:55:24

Duck if both names are on any property etc then being married makes very little difference- being a SAHM is a big financial risk full stop. That doesn't means you shouldn't do it though, risks can be mitigated and sometimes you have to do what's best for your family now.

Toffeelatteplease Tue 15-Dec-15 12:56:56

Without doubt I would go part time.

potap123 Tue 15-Dec-15 13:05:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mouldycheesefan Tue 15-Dec-15 13:08:21

Work part time best of both worlds

ImperialBlether Tue 15-Dec-15 13:32:06

I wouldn't reduce my hours unless I was married.

mouldycheesefan Tue 15-Dec-15 13:34:16

Op doesn't say she isn't married
But I agree with the advice if she is not

Riderontheswarm Tue 15-Dec-15 13:40:19

You'd need to give more details. Can you afford it being the main one. If you can, I would say go for it. I did. It works very well for us and I haven't regretted it once.

LaurieLemons Tue 15-Dec-15 13:59:08

So you'd plan to tutor while DS is at school? That sounds like a good idea, if you want to and you can 100% afford to then I'd definitely go for it!

ImperialBlether Tue 15-Dec-15 14:29:12

She can't tutor while her son is in school - the children she'd be tutoring would also be in school!

OP, tutoring usually takes place from 4pm - 7pm or on Saturday mornings. It can be pretty hard to build up a number of clients and of course they can just stop coming, so that source of income from that client has gone.

What will your child do while you're tutoring?

rollonthesummer Tue 15-Dec-15 14:43:52

I know 4 or 5 teachers who planned to give up and tutor when their own children started school. It didn't work out for any of them. The hours involved were 3-7pm which were not easy to find childcare for and the planning time involved meant they were not actually making much money in the end.

Two went back to teaching part time and the others do supply now.

ImperialBlether Tue 15-Dec-15 16:37:44

A .5 contract can be the best of both worlds. You still have a pension, you still receive training, you have an income and you can be off work half the week.

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Tue 15-Dec-15 16:44:07

If you're not married, then absolutely you should not give up full time work.

If you are married, then go part time.

Tutoring sounds great if working evenings and weekends are your thing. You'll be picking your children up from school to drop them straight off with a childminder, or leaving them with your DH/DP while you tutor. You'll probably miss a lot of tea-times, some bedtimes and a a half day during the weekend.

Personally I preferred to work during the day while DS was at school.

NickyEds Tue 15-Dec-15 20:09:37

Please don't let this married/unmarried thing sway you op. It's a bit of a red herring as we have nowhere near enough information to say whether it would make you more or less secure- it could be that the op owns 100 houses in her own right and her dp has massive debts or that everything is in joint names with no private pensions so half of nothing is nothing. In any case if it is a problem it's easily solvedsmile but it's a career not a wedding that provides financial security.
I think you need to look at the big picture;
-Can you afford this? It isn't just that you lose a wage, it cost money to be at home. Our heating bill has gone up for instance, also whilst there are some really good free things to do sooner of later you will hit the gin soft play/wacky warehouse type places.
-Is your dp totally happy with this?
- Do you want more dc? When?
-Are you thinking of giving up indefinitely, until your dc are in secondary, 5 years, 10?? How easy would it be to return to work if you wanted to?

I was actually going to start a thread about jobs you can do in school hours and only school hours because I'm struggling to find many- would you be ok being a SAHM if the tutoring didn't pan out? For what it's worth I think being a SAHM is a fab thing to do but I wasn't giving up as potentially secure a career as you.

ImperialBlether Tue 15-Dec-15 21:21:30

Actually the OP did make it clear, Nicky. Someone asked, right at the top of the thread, "What are your partner's views?" and she replied, "He'd really like me to finish, happy to support me. I'd plan to tutor at home."

So it doesn't sound as though she has 100 houses after all.

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