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Page 40 | The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Step Into Our Christmas Thread!(1000 Posts)
Hello, I'm Mouse
A HUGE welcome to the Bus!
This is the one and only Gerald. Over the years, we've travelled far and wide gathering some truly remarkable Babes along the way, all of whom have been (and remain to be) at different stages of their own personal journey to sobriety or controlled drinking, depending on what it is that they want to achieve.
We have those who drink daily, those who drink occasionally, and also those who have been sober for some time. The one thing that you won't find here, is any judgey knickers! We're ALL here because at one point or another, we've hit our own "rock bottom" and then smashed the shit out of the FUCK IT button! (makes a note to order a new FUCK IT button)
This is without doubt one of the hardest times of the year for many of us, what with Christmas parties, alcohol on tap, supermarkets who have offers galore of various tipples stacked from floor to ceiling, and EVERY advert on TV shows you what an amazingly cool person you can be if you were drinking whatever brand of alcohol they're flogging! Even Christmas puddings and Brandy creams are tempting fate because as soon as you digest even a small amount of alcohol, it makes your body crave more, just like smoking, medication and recreational drugs................
Then there's the gifts that you're given! Champagne Truffles, Liquors, wines, spirits, you name it! So unless you've told people about your planned journey, people assume that buying gifts like that completely acceptable. So, some may feel obliged to consume such gifts and why not? It's Christmas after all. Then we have the New Year festivities..... parties, friends and family over to have drinks because you'll stop drinking after New Years' Day won't you?
It's so damn hard not to drink if that's what you've been doing all year anyway before you even reach this time of year!! How will you cope with your Great Aunt who will check for dust by running finger over ever surface, or Uncle knobhead who will be there in his cream suit, with that suspicious stain on it and his burgundy shirt asking for a Babycham! Also, let's not forget the in-laws/out-laws! We can sometimes put so much pressure on ourselves that we convince ourselves that we DESERVE that glass or seven of wine etc.
At the end of the day, if you want to drink, then you will. I appreciate that doesn't sound supportive but it's certainly true in my case. As I have said before, the most amazing thing about this Bus and those who travel along with it, is the fact that every single one on board has a story, a reason why they're here, and we all need support in one form or another. Yes, alcohol may be the one thing that we ALL have in common but it goes way deeper than that doesn't it? Life, love and laundry for a start!
Even if you're not ready to stop or cut down on your drinking yet, that's fine! You're still welcome to hop aboard the marvellous Gerald. We're a very varied bunch of Babes but we welcome anyone in need of support, even if you're not ready to say everything that you want to yet, or you feel the need to name change, that's fine! Just know that we're here for YOU for as long as you need to be.
THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO CATCH UP FROM WHERE WE LEFT OFF
And we've woken up to a bright morning in the Lowther Hills (not far from you mint)
How lovely to know people read and get inspired by the threads.
Apart from a couple of weak beers i seem to have become pretty much teetotal by accident. How strange it is that I’ve completely lost my need and desire for booze. I have loads in the house from Christmas still, can’t say I’ll never touch a drop if I have visitors but I think I can say truthfully for the first time in probably 35 years ‘I don’t really drink’.
Weird but great. Hope everyone else is well.
Was tidying up and poured the dregs of a glass of wine down the sink yesterday (not my wine, DH’s) and felt a bit sick at the smell - of the wine, not DH! . First time for everything!
Hey Lux isn't that interesting how your desire for a drink has changed. I imagine it feels like you've got a bit of space in your head, not to be battling against it?
I'm the same with the smell of alcohol now. It all smells so sour to me now. I can't say forever but I can say that I don't ever WANT to drink again. I feel so much more myself without alcohol and I feel that if I just had one drink, I'd think I was okay and could moderate now so it would all start again. My sober life is too precious to risk for the sake of one drink.
I am off on holiday next week ending in a big family wedding. I can't wait.
I hope everyone else is doing ok with whatever they have going on.
Congratulations Lux on the accidental teetotalness, and Venus you are correct about the space you get in your head from not battling the booze. That and the lack morning after shame and anxiety are the best feeling ever.
Do we have a new thread yet ? I've a new bag of opal fruits ready and waiting!
I discovered this thread after googling "wine addiction". Says it all really....
So glad to have found such a wonderful, supportive group. I would love to join if you will have me.
I've been a bottle of wine a night drinker for some years (can't believe I am actually typing this!) and I am trying to taper down (with mixed success). I attempted to stop completely a couple of months ago but suffered symptoms similar to stomach flu and figured tapering down was probably safer. Since then I have set boundaries including at least 2 AFD per week, no drinking before 5pm and no drinking alone in the house (my husband and I usually drink wine together in the evenings). I have managed to mostly stick to the rules, but on the nights I do drink I have a couple of glasses more than I usually would if I were drinking every day. I'm so disappointed with myself. I have started tracking my units and I think my overall unit total is gradually going down, but not as much as I would like. I hope with the support of this group I can steer myself in the right direction.
I have really enjoyed reading back through this thread. Congratulations to Ma and Mint on your recent good news - the wedding photos were truly stunning!
Hi Marlu and well done on moderating. Wise not to go completely AF all at once if you’ve had nasty physical symptoms. It’s so easy for the amount we drink to creep up over time, isn’t it? I can relate to everything you say.
Hi Marlu and welcome.
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