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POF - are they all perverts?

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skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 00:49:38

Been exchanging simple friendly messages with a bloke, he seemed really nice, now tonight, he wants to do webcam, starts talking about boobs and wants to send me a picture of his hairy chest.

Is this normal and to be expected from everybody?? I dont know if Im just talking to a perv or if its friendly harmless banter....

Can you tell Ive been a relationship for 10 years!! Im no good at this dating stuff!!!

BlackberryIce Sun 26-Aug-12 00:50:43

Er, that's a bit this one of those free sites?

ImperialBlether Sun 26-Aug-12 00:52:22

I think it's time all of the women on POF said to men like this, "Oh fuck off, will you? I'm after a proper relationship, not a cam session with a knob."

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 00:55:05

I think you'll find 'chest' a euphemism

omfgkillmenow Sun 26-Aug-12 00:57:08

nope, I got a good one, will be 5 years in November. I dated 5 idiots first before i met him tho, on the plus side got 5 free dinners. Keep trying just block any that are arseholes.

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 00:57:38

I met dp on there and also a few good friends. But there are a lot of pervs or people looking for just sex. If one of the first things they ask you is if you have a cam then that's a pretty good sign they want to see, at the very least, your tits.

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 00:58:11

Oh and if they just send something like 'hi babe' then delete!

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 00:58:54

OK, so Ive seen his hairy chest!! Just wondering whats coming next..... He looked like such a nice bloke too, pictures with his kids etc! I told him I didnt have a webcam and have covered the lens over just in case, lol.

Im disappointed now sad I need to develop a thicker skin I think!

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 00:59:57

OK, so the next line was - do you want to see me stroke my cock.........

OMG!!!!!!! Why did my bastard H leave me? Im too old for this shit!

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 01:00:30

Ermmm ok. Are you seriously thinking he's a possible keeper?

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 01:01:07

thanks for the tip. i was trying to chat about my day, the fact I went to see Michael McIntyre yesterday and he was talking about how he likes curvy women and big boobs.

Not a good sign....

Will just block any in future that ask about webcam!

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:01:22

syke you are newly separated, promise you'll take it easy, and not too seriously? smile

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 01:01:27

Oh a friend of mine got send a video of some guy doing just that. He works with disabled dcs too. I told her she should have reported him.

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 01:02:16

Good about the blocking. I know it's a bit of a shock isn't it?

omfgkillmenow Sun 26-Aug-12 01:02:28

No your not, just have to wheedle out the marrieds and pervs, if he friends you on facebook is a good sign cos hes got nothing to hide, so I would say do you want to move to facebook chat, then see what they say. if yes, then you've got one who at least is genuine

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:02:46

oops skye even
there's a dating thread somewhere in relationships, you're right the landscape has changed somewhat

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 01:03:15

I was just wondering if Im too sensitive, but I think not! Im not a prude, but its not what Im after.

I just dont know whats the norm for flirty banter, lol. i've only ever had 2 serious relationships, was with H for ten years, married for 6, I was never any good at dating before then anyway!

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:03:53

the 'not too seriously' post was a x post btw
not that you'd be likely to after the cock stuff

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 01:04:01

yes, I was just after a bit of friendly chat really, something to do, boost my confidence a bit. Wasnt planning on meeting anybody for a while....

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:04:31

it wouldn't do it for me that's for sure, really disrespectful

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:05:04

well sounds like you've boosted his, er,confidence, anyhow!

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 01:05:11

Just take it slow. What are your settings? There's one you can click to block anyone who's been reported or asked for sex I think? It's been over 4 years since I was on so could've changed?

CuriousMama Sun 26-Aug-12 01:06:06

Chat may be construed as webchat? Only by pervs of course.

ninah Sun 26-Aug-12 01:07:51

when I was online dating there was a thread on here where we all supported each other, I think something similar is still going
have to say my experience was much more tame, the only one I met was very dull and into trains

skyebluesapphire Sun 26-Aug-12 01:11:52

grin at ninah I definitely boosted something lol. He looked like such a nice man too, lol.

WTF is the matter with these men?! Can they not think with their brains, only their balls!

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