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how do i tell him

(15 Posts)
prettyfly1 Wed 17-Aug-05 13:53:02

I am a single parent as you guys know. I have met someone who i think is great and really lovely. Trouble is he doesnt know about my baby boy and i dont want him to automatically rule me out thinking i am looking for a surrogate dad for my baby, when all i want is someone to have a laugh with and be twenty three with. I know i should have mentioned it immediately but originally i assumed he knew. How do i tell him the truth without immediately putting him off.

waterfalls Wed 17-Aug-05 13:58:08

Don't make a big deal of it, casualy mention it in a conversation.

loulabelle222 Wed 17-Aug-05 14:01:06

tell him soon hun but as waterfalls said talk about him within a conversation that way it isn't such a big deal. Do tell him soon though otherwise it will just make things harder.

shhhh Wed 17-Aug-05 14:02:12

I would be honest and tell him about your ds you could make it funny/relaxed by saying you have "another man in your life" as this may break the ice slightly. The longer you leave it though the harder it will get.
TBH once you have told him, if he runs a mile then what have you lost? Maybe someone who wouldn't appreciate your ds & the joy he brings to you. If the issue doesn't faze him then you may have found someone worth holding onto .
Goodluck & I hope it works out.

Amanda1 Wed 17-Aug-05 15:29:56

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prettyfly1 Wed 17-Aug-05 22:05:53

thanks guys thats kind of how intended to do it. kinda hoping if i dont make a big deal then he wont

missycantstop Wed 17-Aug-05 22:14:13

if he really enjoys being with you then him finding out about your child shouldnt be a problem although he may go quite for a while (thats shock 4 u) tell him asap otherwise he will see it as if you have been lying to him and he wont respect you as much. If you really like this someone you will respect him by telling him. good luck.

prettyfly1 Thu 18-Aug-05 13:57:36

tonight will be the big night. gonna have to tell him anyway cause he cant understand why i appear to have a curfew. nervous but if it doesnt work out it doesnt work out!!!!!

missycantstop Fri 19-Aug-05 11:14:49

good luck. your doing the right thing. if things
dont work out then thats his problem- there's plenty more fish 2 fry. Let us know how you get on.

Lucycat Fri 19-Aug-05 11:17:34

How did it go pf?

prettyfly1 Fri 19-Aug-05 14:01:22

it went really well. he had already guessed and was just waiting for me to tell him. he is lovely and i havent stopped smiling all day.

Lucycat Sat 20-Aug-05 22:39:57

ahhh so pleased for you ff.

prettyfly1 Mon 22-Aug-05 13:50:28

me too he is a babe!!!!!!!!

waterfalls Mon 22-Aug-05 13:53:40

prettyfly1 Mon 22-Aug-05 14:01:40

do you know waterfalls thats all i have done all weekend. he makes me laugh, he accepts my son, he is compasssionate, very intelligent and responsible. And a damn good snog with a fab backside how lucky am i!!!!!!!!!!!!

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